I agree, it can sometimes get ridiculous, even tragic.
Maybe this betrays my ignorance and bigotry, but I can't help but think of Chastity Bono, daughter of Sonny and Cher. She was, in my opinion and I'm guessing everybody else's, a very attractive post-adolescent girl.
Around age 15, she came out as gay, which was hard on Cher, but that was nothing compared to a year later, when Chastity told her mother she was "really" a dude, and wanted her body to reflect what she felt inside.
Cher, after much consternation and long talks with her, among other things, finally and VERY reluctantly, acquiesced. Her daughter took the pills, did the surgery, and came out as Chaz, a decidedly, if you ask me, "unusual" looking young man.
And I KNOW this is retrograde, and irrelevant, but from my admittedly fetishized, sexist male point of view, I can't help but think he'd have been WAY better off as a femme--or for that matter butch--lesbian.
I furthermore speculate, what if it'd been today, in 2021, a lightning-fast cultural shift well underway, a time when to be gay or lesbian is becoming not only accepted, but by many positively embraced? Would it have made a difference? Probably not, but who knows?
And, like many others, I've always regarded a beautiful woman as the best thing the natural world has so far, and may ever, produce. Beside the point, but I can't help it if it colors my perspective.
Of course it doesn't matter what I think anyway, now or back then, in 2010.
I wasn't Chastity Bono, convinced she was a boy in a girl's body.
My rational brain gets it, it really does but, burdened by my antiquated and biased gender stereotypes, a part of me STILL clings to a visceral feeling that, darn it, it's a shame it had to be that way.
But don't tell Chaz that. HIS world is a vastly improved, happier place. He has a better-looking girlfriend than I ever had or ever will. Most importantly, he's more at one with himself than he could've ever been as a woman.
And Cher? Totally on board now...mother and son are closer than ever, both agree.
So what do I know? And I'm SORRY, but I happened to read about this the other day, and I'm just expressing my gut feeling, unvarnished by what my upper faculties know to be true. That's part of the problem.

"transgender ideology"? What now, you want to make this into a political phenomenon? So you can attack transgendered people like an invading army?

I know transgender people, and there would be no political angle if haters didn't invent one!

I would point out that gender transition is important for those who are going through it. Gender matters to them a lot; if they don't care about gender, why bother committing themselves to serious, often dangerous, medical treatment and surgical operations? And like you say, some of them are victims of stereotyping as to what women should look like and how they should behave and what men should look like and how they should behave. If a girl is a tomboy and likes climbing trees and playing with toy soldiers, so what? If a boy gets on with girls better than with boys, so what? I just wish that we were allowed to be just the way we are.

I'm also from the Old Left but I think our society is one of old religion, always has been, and the entire society needs to grow out of superstition or violent hatred will overcome us. We need to do this fast, because we've put off questioning the old society for too long, so it's unlikely but only requires a change of mind. One that tolerates full diversity and individual freedoms. A new widely accepted story is what's called for but not what's being offered (by the Old Left). It is simply a matter of pleading on one side and refusal on the other. That will not work, I think.

First of all you I'm pretty sure you are using the word "transgender" incorrectly. Transgender is an actual process comprised of hormonal therapy and surgeries alter a person's physiology and appearance to become another gender.

Being transgender has nothing to do with one's sexual orientation.

All homosexuals are not transgender and being homosexual does not mean you want to be another gender.

And there is a slow, but increasing acceptance for people who assert themselves outside stereotypical gender norms in both appearance and self expression.