JFC, what an ass!

You have dodged yet another bullet, my dear.

I have to thank you for posting these stories. It seems like every time I start to consider "well, maybe...",
you post about a brush with a cretin.
I'm reminded of my failures and disappointments in dating and relationships, and I return to my senses.

For me, you're doing a serious public service, and I thank you.

Wow. First he bowls you over with details of his lack of fitness, then he has the audacity to have demands about your breasts? I wonder how far his hang?

I hope he takes the opportunity you're giving him to learn and grow as a person.

You have more fortitude than I do. I have given up on telling people why they aren't good conversationalists, they don't care. They are how they are, and they aren't going to change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing. Chances are he'll be dead by then.

I would have hung up when he said he wanted to see them. And blocked the number as well as any profile you know he has. It's seriously not worth it. F$& that BS. NEXT!

Yikes......I am surprised you even finished a conversation with him.

I see I'm not missing anything by not being on the dating sites. I think a lot of people get a bit too talky on the phone, feeling they need to fill every silent moment with more talking, when in person the silence can be savored or filled with glances around for a change of topic or physical gestures.

Most people can tell when they're going on and on unnecessarily, but for some maybe it's just nervous chatter.

I'm a bit of a talker sometimes, but I once had a guy break up with me after one date because I didn't talk enough during our subsequent phone calls. Huh! Had never been told that before! In my defense, he was our local rock radio DJ, so I was used to listening to him silently as he entertained me and the entire island. Never occurred to me to talk too much about myself, but apparently he actually wanted to listen to someone else other than his own talking. Oh well, after me he met a great gal, a perfect fit!

Some like to listen, some like to talk, and then there's those of us who like to find a happy medium, though I'm sure it takes a long while to find that comfortable interaction.

The crass comments about cup size etc., well that just shows that he was interested more in your body than your mind. Doesn't sound like a gentleman. At least you got a glimpse of his personality without having to go to the trouble of actually meeting him.

Hopefully he realizes that you sending this letter to him is actually helpful to him.
Being told what he did wrong should help him rethink his approach and make some changes.
I wish you both love.

Dating as a senior must be difficult at best, I just remember all the head cases I met when I was younger…imagine it takes time, patience and a bit of compromising

Senior online dating! Ugh...don't get me started; I could do a comedy routine on that, and did write a song about it.

Isn't it awful what's out there? The moldy leftovers, for the most part, and I'm really trying not to be mean about it. I can so sympathize with everything you said, especially the ones who act like they haven't talked to anyone in decades, and can't filter anything that comes out of their mouths. For the most part, they are crude and mannerless bores, and there's a good reason why they're single. In the last three years I have met two rather nice ones, though, both of whom live over 2,500 from me, and don't want a long-distance relationship (but we traveled together anyhow, and had fun).

Do you find yourself nodding your head, practicing silent whiplash, while they go on and on indefinitely? You're not alone. There are some nice men out there who aren't taken, I'm sure, but where?

Good riddance to trash

Just recently I meet a woman online. A few messages and we exchanged phone numbers. A phone call and we met for lunch. It went well and the next time we went for an urban walk and lunch. She said next time she would like to go to Ft. Worth and walk around the downtown area. That was great. The next day was Sunday and she was going to be with family. I texted the following day to set our next date up. Nothing. Profile off on the dating site. I knew there was no reason to text or call as she would not answer. Nothing inappropriate was said or done.
Ghosting is so much fun.

Anyway, at least you let this guy know the problem you had with him.

You do get some jewels, but this was a dud, did I ever tell you how I got this annoying pain in the butt? Bla, bla, bla, ad infinitum, plus more blabbing and zzz zzz, sorry dozed off, LOL!

There are certainly many people I encounter who simply think that what they say is the MOST IMPORTANT SHIT ON EARTH !.. No filter, no shuttee uppee. I still think about some dude @ Dollar General that interrupted the conversation between an acquaintance and I a couple of weeks ago....then I remember many more just like him....They ramble on & on. One way babble.
I have a brother that is about the worst ....

On the romantic side of things, my ex-girlfriend and I talked almost nightly, for hours sometimes. I talked the most no doubt, but when she had her turn, I listened 100%. A few times I apologized for talking too much, but she insisted it was OK and she liked hearing my stories and my voice. She even complimented me for being a good listener. It is possible to speak AND Listen

WHAT A WOMAN !

To quote Kelsey Grammer in Up Periscope, " NEXT CONTESTANT".

Sounds like a winner right there. Where are you shopping?

I think you are about due to run out of frogs. I hope so anyway.

WTF???

....this fella REALLY asked you about
"breasts and butts"
after his several whining sessions on a variety of
self-inflicted medical issues???
Can you BLOCK this silly-willy overly selfish indulgent ding-dong?
Thank God you didn't meet him...or anyone ELSE like him {I hope}
He's sad....
......very sad.

Stop beating around the bush . Tell him how You Really Feel !

Sounds clear enough to me. I would talk you to death but not like this clown did. I would also want to hear what you had to say. My question on this, Kathleen, is are you really looking? I'm not caught in similar situations maybe because I am a loner and not looking. Even so, I got another invite today to "go to hangouts" or just give her my e-mail so we could text. I'm not a fan of hangouts and words on a screen are simply words on a screen. They have nothing to do with the pictures you are seeing. I do not want or need endless texts daily from someone, and especially if I've never talked to them in real time.

wow, you sure have a lot going on with these dating sites

If I ever become like him, somebody please shoot me!

For myself there is a time and place for talking sexy, but treating you as 'cattle' simply is not acceptable without it being made clear that that is your 'thing'.
For some relationships it could be part of humour although I do not detect that it exists here, so don't do it.
I tend to ramble on in conversations, but I try to learn when to shut up.
As for romance - pretending I'm close enough to be practical as well as suitable eye candy for you. I would not be demanding to see your feet, breasts and butt, that would be up to you to want to show them to me giving you the power for as, if or when.
Maybe, I'm a bit old fashioned and romantic, as well as modern in my dislike for the sexual objectification of fellow human beings.

Trying to find a decent person out there to try to love is like trying to get the right numbers on the lottery. I gave up long ago.

I much prefer to ask the occasional probing and open-ended question and then listen for as long as is needed to fully understand the answer.

You seam clear enough although, if (big if) he is able to use your detailed explanations of his shortcomings guidebook, he may be able to (temporarily) present a lesser degree dumb-ass facade and successfully burn more time resources of the next woman he attempts to objectify for his pleasure.