@vegan66

Thank you!

@Spongebob

You asked: Why do young men specifically get addicted?

Testosterone, socialization and "boys will be boys."

The majority of males love loud cars, recklessness, explosions, fights and warfare. Men commit the vast majority of mass shootings and murders. Boys and men abuse and rape women and girls. Guys start the vast majority of wildfires deliberately or with reckless behavior.

Guys love warfare and violence in video games. It makes them feel powerful. Women, not so much.

@Diaco

Please cite credible research to back up your claims.

Staring at a screen instead of talking with someone is rude. Obsessive video gamers lack social skills.

Video game addiction with teenagers and young men born after 1990 is a worldwide problem.

China just turned off residential internet from midnight to 6:00 a.m. Over 90 percent of Chinese young men are addicted to video games. They prefer playing video games to working.

@LiterateHiker , Well, I'm not just a gamer, I'm active in this industry as a developer and designer.
Putting aside gamer's personal life and their behavior during the game, online games, and online virtual experiences, completely redefined social skills.
about the "addiction", sure, but usually when someone cheats on someone else, there is a LACK in their relationship. my point is; what's wrong if ppl can fill society issues and flaws in a safe place! so pls, point to society in the first place for the flaws.
Everyone is looking for a happy moment, why someone has to choose a game on a (let's say) real experience?!
in video games, people have the opportunity to compare themselves and their skills to others with an equal position, beyond nationality, race, age, money, and... etc. which all will affect their life in society.
China !!!! not long time ago they banned ppl to have more than 1-2 kids. I mean, what a totalitarian government does is not necessarily the right thing.
after all, without any bias, for sure there are issues with games and virtual experiences, but human finally will make a new balance.
there's so many articles/researches out there but as example :
[news.microsoft.com]
[medicalnewstoday.com]
[webmd.com]
[medicalnewstoday.com]
[verywellmind.com]
[ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]
[sciencedirect.com]

@Diaco China is now limiting internet and gaming time. China is using facial recognition not only to id people, but in classrooms to alert the teachers if a student is paying close enough attention.
You are correct that video games cam help keep people more alert, etc. Many old folks homes and hospitals, etc use them as well.

@LiterateHiker , btw, when I talk about video games, I don't mean just action games! today even education systems understand with gamification, virtual experiences, and video games they can improve students' understanding and make scientific topics simpler, more exciting, and effective. same thing for factories/businesses to introduce their product and their abilities! as mentioned before, virtual reality/experience is another step in human history.

@Beowulfsfriend, Cool!, we replied exactly about the same point at the same moment

@LiterateHiker I don’t see staring at a screen as being rude, it’s a choice. Rude is doing it when someone is talking to you. It’s also rude to talk to someone who is playing.

Obsessive behavior of any kind leads to all sorts of problems. I think it is the obsessive behavior you really mean to address. And that can be in many forms from drinking to gambling to exercise to stamp collecting.

Seems like the key is finding someone with similar interests, not complaining about behavior,or worse, trying to change another’s behavior to fit your model. That never works out.

@Canndue

The only person I can change and control is myself. I learned it in my 20s.

On a first date, if the man keeps staring at his phone, I'm out. We're there to talk and get to know each other. Actions speak louder than words.

@LiterateHiker exactly, agree 100 %

@MsKathleen

Motivation is internal. Don't blame mothers.

At age 11, Claire had three summer jobs. For folks on vacation, Claire fed and walked dogs and watered plants. Also she made bead jewelry that she sold to friends. That summer, she earned $800 that went toward her college fund.

Now Claire is supervising a team for Evergreen Medical Center. Providence Hospital asked her to work 20 hours/week. Claire worked for Providence previously. Now she's working two jobs. She has always been a hard worker.

Evergreen Medical Center just gave Claire a $1,000 bonus and a seven percent raise.

She joined the Everett Tennis Club. Claire plays tennis four days a week, runs and meditates daily. She takes a yoga class; and a "power" class for strength, agility and balance.

Claire is happy and healthy. Bravo!

@LiterateHiker I disagree. But I don’t want to argue.

@MsKathleen

Young men need to get off their asses, go to work, exercise, volunteer and make friends. They need to stop wasting their lives playing video games.

The only person I can change and control is myself. I learned that in my 20s. Why do you think I exercise regularly and volunteer? Nobody tells me to do that.

Motivation is internal. I worked full time while attending graduate school. My goal was the get a Master degree by the time I was 30. I got that Master degree three weeks before turning 30.

@LiterateHiker if ANYONE could motivate them, it would be their mothers…instead of enabling that behavior. What you did and what Claire did is irrelevant. Mothers need to quit coddling kids beyond infancy.

@MsKathleen

We never let Claire play video games. That's relevant.

We severely limited her TV watching. We only let her watch three, half-hour shows per week. That's relevant.

Instead we read to her and played with her.

The result was Claire became a huge reader and athlete.

@LiterateHiker Your perspective. Some who MIGHT have had strong internal motivator have been ruined by too much maternal coddling.

Yes, just like "reality TV " though unlike that it is slightly qualified by the word "virtual".