I’ve noticed every time she send me a text message, she can’t say anything without mentioning her Christian religion or needing to remind me how Jesus loves me. She knows I don’t believe in Jesus Christ and she still sends messages like that. What should I do? I’ve mostly been ignoring her text messages cause I don’t want her to think she’s getting the best of me, but telling me something like that is like saying Edward Cullens love you. I’m convinced these are all acts of attempted manipulation, but I could be wrong. Tell me what you guys think. Leave your thoughts below.
I would probably be a little blunt:-
"So Jesus loves me, does he?
"Bit difficult that, due to him not existing except in the minds of delusional christians. So Jesus loves me precicely as much as you are, yourself, loved by the equally non-existent giant, emerald-green fairy at the bottom of my garden.
"Do you really want to exchange fairy tales?"
Send them devilish texts until they get the message.
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So is she really a friend if she does this all the time when she knows it is not your belief system? If she is a good friend or part of a group of friends, I would confront her and tell her that she is crossing a line. If she doesn't stop, block her. Frankly I doubt that I would call her a friend because she is not respectful
Tell her you had a vision of Jesus in your sleep and he said that you were doing great, but that he doesn't appreciate other people putting words in his mouth. Oh, and he also said to lay off the bacon or else.
I would kindly remind her you are athiest-agnostic and you don't appreciate the text messages.
You can block them because they don't respect your views on religion.
I did.
@EmeraldJewel congratulations. I blocked my entire family. My Catholic principal tried and failed to rape me when I was young. I told mom, she did nothing but call me a liar. I told my religious sister, later in life , that my child hood was bad, and churches prey on children. She respo sed that we all bad to bear our cross as children. That was the last time we spoke . She quit sending religious cramp 5 years later. The rest of my can't are douche bags. Sound harsh? I dgaf
You could try telling her that her texts are insulting and annoying. Tell her that you understand that she is christian and thinks it is her duty to "save" you, but you do not share her belief and find her constant carping about her religion to be very off putting. Tell her that you would be fine remaining friends, but you won't be able to if she does not stop. After all, you are not trying to force your beliefs down her throat, why is she doing it to you? If she continues, in spite of an honest discussion, I would tell her that you are not going to be able to remain friends with her.
Send them atheist texts. When they sneeze say, “nothing happens when you die”. It’s bullshit that they can be like that without the fear of repercussion, but we can’t. It’s offensive to them if I do that, and they should practice the same amount of courtesy.
My sister in law did that EVERY TIME. I’d say what’s up?! And she say “God is Good!” Finally I said fuck off and I don’t talk to my brother and her anymore.
I have had family that have done that to me and I just nipped it in the bud. I've told them if they continue trying to prostilize, convert, or preach to me in any way that I would cut all ties with them. It works like a charm.
I will respect the fact that they believe in unicorns and I won't try to convince them that unicorns don't exist, since I don't know that for a fact. In turn, I don't want them to try and convince me that they do exist. If they don't respect that mutual agreement then I just terminate my association with them.
Try to be straight up with her, maybe say something like “you know I don’t believe in that stuff and I’m starting to think you keep mentioning it intentionally. I’d feel better if you stopped.” Her feelings are important but if y’all are good friends she ought to show concern for yours too. Maybe she’s unaware of how you feel and all it takes is you telling her. Try to start off by giving her the benefit of the doubt, she might think everyone who hears that stuff feels good because she feels good when she hears it?
What you suggest is known as "trying to reason with a believer"...You know it will never happen.
@DUCHESSA I can see a little more info from some of her replies to other commenters but based off the original question, I feel this is a reasonable starting point. If the girl is not reciprocating concern then perhaps being more assertive would be a better option, but deciding someone is unreasonable before you try to reason with them isn't good. I've done it before, don't get me wrong, and I'll probably do it again but it I think it's generally not good assume that another person is unwilling to change their position on something without first trying to reason with them. It's almost like a theist saying "burn in hell" or something along those lines.
Christians are compelled to be missionaries emotionally. Just knowing you are not almost compels this friend to try to '' save you ''. They truly believe that you will go to some hell unless you believe in their Christian belief system. I have no advice for you. I found myself that religious people can not change and do not change . I had to simply exclude them from my own life to have peace and honestly . I make it a point to never tell anybody my own religious non beliefs , will never discuss religion nor politics. I was given that advice long , long ago - never to discuss religion or politics. Now days I would also add vegan diet to that.
Once I had an acquaintance ... Some fundi Christian freak but otherwise harmless ... After each visit just before leaving he would say: "I am saying a little (fuck just a little) prayer for you." ... I told him that the angels at his god's switch board would get really cranky at him because they couldn't find my name since I was never listed.
Tell her about the 33,000,000 Hindu gods and their little helpers that love her to bits...very small bits
You could reply in kind and say "Santa says you've been a good girl this year".
You could also send her quotes by Hitchens, Grayling, Dawkins or other atheist of choice.
Chances are, she may not realise what message you're trying to get across as sometimes being subtle doesn't work.
Honesty can be the best but often more painful route. Telling her that part of you appreciates her concern and her efforts to save your eternal soul (sometimes religious folks genuinely do believe they are literally saving you from hellfire) but that her constant references to her beliefs are unwelcome. That you support her to believe whatever she wants but she need to give you the same respect. You may even have to say that if she continues it may damage or end the friendship.
If she continues then chances are she's not your friend or she just can't put it behind her.
If someone knows that something is bothering you then they will do it for spite. Don't say anything and it will go away. Go to Pinterest and find some non spiritual posts which you don't have to send to her specifically but post them where she can see them.
I just ignore her for the most part and don’t even go around her cause I refuse to show or allow her to bother me. She obviously needs professional help as long as she has imaginary friends she needs to love her.
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