Is sex incredible if you climax? If your partner climaxs? Both?
Is it incredible based on who you're with? Whether or not you're in love?
Is the type of sex important?
It's not destination as much as it is the journey. 'Cause sometimes you don't get there, but the experience can still be pretty awesome. In fact, it's vital that this is the important part. And connection, affection, communication, they're all vital, too.
I like high passion with a little side of rough.
"...ruff ruff!"...
Usually with a lot of Oooh's and Aaah's peppered with a myriad of colorful metaphor's
Incredible sex happens when both partners are relaxed, very comfortable with each other and in themselves. When there are few inhibitions, and nature takes it's course in the moment. Toys are a useful add on. Taking care of each other. If each puts their focus on their partner...Both win. It's also nice to be a total giver to your partner...Absolute focus on their pleasure. Exploration, openness, communication, atmosphere.
It is good from the beginning, a mixture of sexual tension and comfort of being with the other person. All your senses are running in overdrive, heart is running double time before things even get physical, and it lasts for hours. The post coital bliss is about as close as one gets to a heaven.
Sex? What is that? It's be so long since I had sex that my Willie brought a ticket to Nashville and I haven't heard from it since.
1st) It has a lot to do with chemistry and some level of bonding. The more in tune you are, the more bonded or openness to be bonded, the better.
2nd) Being with a partner who listens to my cues or straight out requests.
3rd) Being with a partner who is open and honest about his desires. You can feel when someone is holding back. It puts a shadow over the experience.
Those three things have to be in play for great sex.
Usually for myself its the longer i can delay the climax the better it is, i prefer to be emotionally close to the woman, naughty love making with lots of creative stuff, oral is always great from both ends giving and receiving, what is good for you Mea?
I'm a pleaser. As long as my partner gets there, I'm happy!
@Mea Be careful here. This can cause SPA (Sexual Performance Anxiety). This is real. Check it out on Webmd.
@commander42, thank you for your concern--luckily I haven't had any issues. I just really enjoy making my partner feel good.
@Mea thats good to know, i like that in a Woman. Keep things creative and interesting, try new things
It’s all mental
Well, not "all." ?
In the words of Woody Allen "Sex is like Pizza ..even when its bad...its good".
Some of this depends whether your a giver or a taker..selfish lover etc. If you are in a relationship you can still have great sex if you are willing to accept or at least tolerate your partner's shortcomings..if they are lazy or lack imagination or initiative.
You can still have incredible sex..by making the absolute best of a limited scope as long as you are willing to give and enjoy giving. And still both happily climax every time.
Well that's what a friend told me anyway...
Isn't the connection more important?
Our society seems to be obsessed with sex and defining it as being orgasm driven and nothing else.
I'd also prefer to have sex with someone I have a special romantic connection to, but everyone has different preferences and as such different ideals of incredible sex. Although, it makes me happy to share sex with people I love/care for, I wouldn't say sexual experiences with people you're not closed to can't also be incredible.
Without waxing erotic, when those involved are satiated.
Geeze... i picked the wrong smallville...lol. hell... youll know.