Jealousy is a waste of energy.

First of all, it seems like there is a lot of confusion between jealousy and envy. Not to be pedantic, but I see jealousy as the fear of losing a partner to someone else. I see envy as the desire to have something someone else has, combined with some resentment that the other person has it and you do not.

Now, while I personally work to overcome jealousy in a more open relationship than most, I do not see it as pointless at all. I think jealousy makes a ton of sense. Human emotional bonding, or attachment, is rooted in deep, evolutionary realities that are based ultimately in survival. Attachment seeks to answer the question: Will you be there for me when/if/how I really need you? It includes the corollary: Is it safe for me to be myself around you?

I think the best relationships find ways to answer both of these questions with a firm and solid "Yes!" more often than not. When those questions are answered that way, then exploration beyond can begin. If not, then jealousy will constantly interfere, and I think, rightly so.

We are evolved to be interdependent creatures, and our very survival depends upon it. From the day we are born, we seek the comfort of a special other who will take care of us. Monkeys who are raised without actual mothers will starve themselves to death cuddling a warm, furry surrogate mother rather than get milk from a cold metal surrogate mother standing a foot away. It means that much to us and our evolved nervous systems.

So don't be too quick to dismiss jealousy, even if you are trying to live in a world that is evolved enough to be non-zero-sum, a world abundant in "Yes", and a world low in insecurity. Despite our best attempts to become more highly developed, jealousy evolved for a reason, and it will not be summarily tamed.

I do not understand jealosy at all. I am just happy for what I have.

It shows a lack of trust or low self esteem. I don't believe in jealousy as well as deities.

Jealousy only leaves the one who expresses it feeling more empty. I truly believe it stems from insecurity.

You're not. For people who identify as poly, it's foundational.

It is such a telling moment. That kid, that 17 year old who killed in Santa Fe Texas. It has been cited he was jealous over losing a girl that he never had

I think it's a base emotion that's difficult to control. I feel jealous often, and I wish I didn't. But I can't help it.

Not only pointless but borderline nuts.

You most certainly arent the only one who feels this way, the Feelings of Jealously or even envy are natural among many people, you are correct these feelings don't solve anything and also are highly illogical and irrational but those of us who suffer from these emotions can't help themselves, i say turn too gene pool cleansing lols

I was always prone to the "green eyes monster" I think it died about 10 years ago.

I try to be self confident at all times but for heavens sake, you every see Idris Elba without a shirt? He'll yes I'm jealous.

No, you aren't the only one. I often get asked why I am not jealous. It is a pointless pastime.

My initial thought is that it’s a silly and juvenile emotion. One that people can easily outgrow or figure out how to manage. For those who struggle with it, I would ask if they find it helpful. It seems to me it’s an emotion masking deeper issues.

The question is whether anyone else uses "to a degree completely" in a sentence.

JMO but in my rudimentary observations those who profess to not feel jealousy ever are either speaking from a place of privilege or aren't being honest as at some point more people experience it than care to admit. I'm jealous of people who are good in math. So what. Yes I'm insecure about my "mathing abilities and lack thereof"... or envious, whichever.

A little concern about losing important connections is good.

Repeatedly questioning the trustworthiness of another is dangerous to self and others.

I you feel jealous often, you are in the wrong relationship.

No emotion is pointless. They all serve a purpose. The problem is we rarely draw the right conclusions from our emotional states, and this doubly true for those emotions percieved as being negative. Jealousy is almost never about the other person. It is usually a sign of some unhappiness or insecurity in our own lives that we have projected outward. Once you can recognize this it's easier to address the real problem.

The Green Eyed Monster, apt name.Total pointless, but i have to admit i have been jealous before.

For me, totally pointless.
No one has anything worth being jealous about.

Hmmmm.... its human to see something you would like to have. That gives you drive to excel. You are you... you want to be different then you have to do things differently

Jealously can cause a negative, self fulfilling prophecy when allowed to go haywire. I never tolerated it in my relationships, and don't go there myself. Too much useless drama ! It seems to me to always originate in the insecure mind of the jealous person.

I agree that jealousy is pointless. It reminds me of a quote attributed to Buddha but probably not his.
"It is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"

Jealously is a dangerous emotion that may cause an individual with an impulse disorder to act irrationally. It is easy for a normal person to say otherwise . We are born with traits and characteristics sometimes beyond our control.

Jealousy is the sort of thing that you outgrow, usually by the time you are in your 30's if not sooner. If someone wants to be with you and stay with you then they will, and that's how it should be. Trust the one you love and accept them as they are, anything else is just drama.