You ever feel like you found the perfect sexual partner then he turns out to be a complete 
bag and you can’t find the satisfaction in other encounters?
Like, all of a sudden I have a new criteria for 
and I can’t express it w/o attracting senseless pervs..
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RichRaelian
Level 4
May 3, 2023
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I met someone on Elite. We chatted on the app, then switched to e-mail. We both appear on a Google search, so we knew we were real. She invited herself to my place for a first meet coffee,( wow) we have been together ever since. We are extremely compatible in many ways and we are very sexually compatible.
Tiredofdrama
Level 5
Feb 25, 2022
1
I’d just like to find someone who knows what the hell he is doing. Too many sexually ignorant men in my generation.
KateOahu
Level 8
Feb 22, 2022
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Agreed. I’m burnt out on telling men what I want or how to do it. It’s as though I need a 5 page essay on what exactly will happen if I entertain sex now 
@KhaCR I’d read that young women encounter this same lack of knowledge. You seem to be confirming this. Young women: PLEASE quit faking it with men. Tell them when they don’t know what they’re doing. They’ve seen too much (erroneous) porn. The statistics are that few women achieve “vaginal orgasms”; most women only achieve orgasm via clitoral stimulation. I always recommend the book, “She Comes First”, by Ian Kerner, to men willing to discuss sex, if they seem to not know…especially when they complain that women don’t want to have sex. I assure them that women love sex, if the men know what they are doing. The younger they get educated, the happier older women will be. When he was 21, my son boasted to me that he had “been told how good he is”, I responded, “yeah, women lie like that all the time. If you have not researched women’s sexual arousal and ability to orgasm, you do not know what you are doing. And you should hire a professional to teach you.” I never heard anything more on the subject. [ncbi.nlm.nih.gov]
@MsKathleen You definitely read it wrong then. I know full well what to do and when to do it. I’ve never faked an orgasm as that would be just plain silly. I’ve literally asked “What about me?” That’s when I changed my range and started seeking older men. Used to love seasoned men that would teach me things but then I got old and learned too much so now I feel like a pretty pearl in a clam that never gets found. It’s frustrating when you’ve explored a great deal but can’t seem to find someone to explore with endlessly for whatever reason(s).
Girlfriend, take knowledge from the old wise survivors here. They will impart to you the real deal. If you are attaching to fast, that is on you. You need to expose yourself to retraining your brain your brain thru counseling. Attachment disorder reflects the wounded psyche within. You need to heal yourself so that you do not pass on dysfunction to your child. Heal thyself before you attach to someone you may seriously regret Take it from your elder sisters. I wish I had that opportunity when I was young.
Mooolah
Level 8
Feb 22, 2022
2
Believe me, since I became a mother, all I’ve done is shadow work and healed myself. I’m simply stating what I desire in a partner that seems next to impossible for me. It’s been over a year since I even engaged in sex and it was with a partner I was with before pregnancy so, nothing new and I’m a hermit now. No one comes over and I don’t go anywhere. I’ve cut just about everyone out of my life too as I realized most were interested in my life to laugh when I had hardships. No gets my energy now.
testosterone= senseless pervs
Please accept the inoculation for me, & the country. Passing the virus onto me could lead to my death. I only have 25% of lung function due to exposure to tobacco smoke prior to President Bill Clinton banning smoking in all federal buildings. But the damage was done. So please protect me, tho I am off topic.
Mooolah
Level 8
Feb 22, 2022
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So, we’re just going to ignore the fact they falsified death records when it first happened? No matter what anyone says, I will not inject myself with unknown contents. If you are in fear of getting sick, then YOU get the vaccine but I’m sure they’ll convince you of much more.
Like something you experienced for the first time is something you're really into now? That's not that strange.
Don't keep us in suspense though, you can tell us.
ChestRockfield
Level 8
Feb 22, 2022
1
My only advice is taking your time when you meet someone. If they are really interested in you the person, they will be patient. And always pay attention to those little red flags. They can become awfully large in time. Oh, and trust your gut feelings, they won't let you down. That is all l have. 
Sticks48
Level 9
Feb 21, 2022
2
That emoticon looks like an eggplant . Seems to me you can feel lust without feeling love , but it won't last very long that way . You can feel love , without feeling lust . You can feel respect without feeling either , but they all feel better if all things are there . And none of them works , as a one way street . Someone may feel love , lust , and respect for you , but you may not feel that way toward them , or vis-versa . What works best , is when each of you feels very good about both yourself and your partner being together .
Cast1es
Level 9
Feb 21, 2022
4
I have a tendency to get attached too quickly which is why I always distance myself in the beginning but when I fall for someone, it always ends and the last person that things ended with was the sexual partner that explored me and found the parts of me I didn’t know were there and now I can’t find satisfaction in average guys. Now that I’m older and have a child, it seems almost impossible to find a man of my criteria.
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