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As for your own questions about yourself, few of us can simply apply one categorical label to ourselves that entirely sums up every facet of our sexuality. If you are NOT homophobic, you will not feel the need to slam the door hard to shut out any little passing thought of another man being attractive. Such a thought doesn't make you gay. It is just a clue that your orientation has some nuance to it, not simply 100% hetero. And you are more in touch with your feelings than some. If you are 10% attracted to other men, I suggest that means you are 90% straight--so basically "straight but not narrow." But straight, bi, and gay are just labels, and they are not precise. Orientation, behavior. And identity are three separate questions that just happen to usually overlap substantially. It is up to you to define that last one for yourself. If you are not afraid of any of the labels, you can be more honest and emotionally healthy about how you chooise one for yourself.

First off, appreciation and attraction are two different things. You can appreciate (and acknowledge) that someone looks good without wanting to jump in bed with them. There is also sexual attraction (wanting intercourse), and romantic (wanting snuggling, holding hands, etc...). The two do not have to be exactly the same, you could be heterosexual & biromantic, asexual & homoromantic, etc. As others have said, it's a spectrum, and how YOU want to identify yourself on it is up to you. No one can/should tell you who you are. It is a learning process, you are constantly discovering who you are. In the demisexual community I've seen people who thought that they were completely asexual, until they just found that one person they really "clicked" with later in life.

I've personally never really liked labels, but our world thrives on them. We just want to love whom we love, but the world wants to categorize and file us. The world is not Black & White. It is an ever changing spectrum of colors, lack of colors, lights, and darks. Just be who feels right to you.

Welcome. The labels are a challenge. I finally decided on bisexual for myself. I think others are better equipped to answer your question though, from what I've seen so far.

Pick the word....I am whatever sexual response it do with people I find sexually attractive...suck it, eat it, stroke it, fuck it...just sayin' but always remember, to position yourself to be able to say "NO" without an apology, or YES without guilt....guilt fucks up good sex more than anything. If pressured to play the name game, I would have to pick pansexual. Now, at the end of my life. I have had far more women than men, but the early part of my sexual awakening was pretty well, exclusively male...but when my penis' experience extended to include vaginas...it was an entirely different world. I LOVE SEX with a woman, I ENJOY SEX with a man...

Sexuality is complicated. For starters, there's both your innate sexuality (which sexes you fantasise about having sex with) and your practising sexuality (which sexes you actually have sex with.) So if you're male, you fantasise about both male and female, but you only have sex with female, then you're innately bisexual but a practising heterosexual.

Then, of course, people insist on throwing other preferences into the mix, and coming up with all kinds of weird and wonderful new sexualities based on whether they'd only have sex with people who like seafood or who prefer Apple over Samsung. It'd encourage you to ignore all of that, and focus on the mechanical side (who has a vagina and who has a penis, generally speaking.) Stick to the basics: asexual, bisexual/pansexual, heterosexual and homosexual.

For what it's worth, innately I'm some degree of bisexual, but I've been a practising homosexual for over 5 years, and don't miss female intimacy at all. I'd put myself a solid 5 on the Kinsey scale these days: no real interest in anyone female, and plenty in people who are male, but never say never if the right female came along. From a Kinsey perspective, 0 = heterosexual, 6 = homosexual and 1-5 = different degrees of bisexual. More modern renderings of the scale also tend to include an A for asexuals, who don't fit anywhere on the 0-6 spectrum.

For years I clung onto the notion that if I could be a practising heterosexual, then that's what I should be. After all, society and religion don't tell you it's wrong to be same sex attracted, just that it's wrong to act upon those urges and that they must be repressed at all costs. I even managed to convince myself that I was a heterosexual male with bi-curious fantasies. The few times I did experiment were thoroughly negative experiences. Often a very negative reaction from the other party once they'd reached orgasm (I nearly lost my best friend, at the time, over us both getting drunk and ending up jerking each other off one night.) Sometimes just my own sense of guilt from falling off the righteous path of heterosexuality.

Ultimately, your sexuality is whatever you sincerely declare it to be. So it's up to you to do some homework, stare at your navel for a while and figure it out. I've chatted with a straight guy who occasionally had sex with men. In most people's eyes, that would make him at least bisexual, but he was adamant that the fact that he only ever had feelings for women made him straight. Ultimately, if he's happier identifying as straight rather than bi, then who am I to take that away from him?

The term you might be looking for is bicurious. Although, you could be straight and just be one of the few guys willing to admit that other men are attractive. Honestly, what you choose to identify as or not is completely up to you. Either way, I am glad you can be open about how you feel. I hope this helps.

Don't worry, be happy. They aren't many judgemental people here, so relax ?

Welcome. You are already being open and honest. ?