I admire this post and that you had the courage to come out publicly.

I'm bi and 47 years old and I'm not out to anyone except a handful of acquantances (who are gay or bi as well). I really only admitted it to myself about 10 years ago. For most of my life I never even knew any gay or bi people and have never felt comfortable enough to tell anyone. Add to that I'm also a very private person and very introverted and socially shy, but I'm very slowly letting my guard down.

I came out as bi in my late 20s. It upset a lot of people in my community (Korean) who are basically rooted in old habits. I guess the way I look at it is, I like to look at women more than men. I also like the way women feel - soft and warm. Men are hard and rough and hairy. That's a big turnoff for me.

Congratulations on getting real.

I’m very happy for you. I’m seriously debating whether or not I should do this myself. Thanks for sharing your courage. As for men being pigs...you know better than I do. Some of us can’t deal with that level of courage and have to put our own garbage into it to be okay. But I hope it didn’t ruin your moment. Consider it flags of who is too insecure to deal with your truth.

Supportive Facebook friends are great. Horndogs are a dime a dozen.

Some men can be assholes.

Good for you! I am out of the closet here at Agnostic.com, but only a few select friends know I am bi. As for the three male acquaintances, I think most men are like that, therefore, I see no reason they should inform you of that. I mean, they might as well said "Can I watch sometime?". It's a bizarre world.

Sounds like a misguided attempt at support and approval. I wouldn't read too much into it.

Why do men keep saying that? What is so hot about having two or more women being pissed at them? Why use the word they clearly do not understand?