I really like the comment and subsequent comments... especially regarding not defining things so much. Personally I try to pay attention to what turns me on and why it turns me on and leave it at that. I think sexuality (for me at least) is a lot more fluid. If I had it my way lol I'd live in a culture where there weren't so many definitions and just a culture where people listened more to their instincts and everything understood it's normal. At times I am attracted to men and at other times I am attracted to women, and at other times I am attracted to trans etc. I really appreciate the people commenting that it's ok to change and be fluid with sexuality and bonding.

I don’t fit into a label; I bet you don’t, either. I’m glad you’re free to explore and define what you truly want.

Don't worry about the label. I struggled with that myself for close to 5 years. Personally I'm attracted to both, but favor the female body type and the male "package." Finally I realized that it doesn't make a difference what I or anyone else calls me, as it won't change who or what I find attractive. Just be you.

I kinda wish I could pull off appearing fem. Like you though my body is too masculine naturally to pull this off, and I just feel silly if I try acting different. I'm also incredibly shy, and would probably die of embarrassment if my parents or brother saw me like that.

Thanks for posting. Keep exploring your feelings, and be honest with yourself.

I find labels useful, but many don't. My sexuality labels have gone from straight to lesbian (on a technicality), to bi, all in the last 3 years. The happiest time of my life is now.

We're all works in progress.

As Warm Dissent said, thank you for taking a risk and posting. I applaud your bravery. I've gone back and forth with the label issue myself. I had been with only men for my whole life, but the desire to be with women lingered too. When I was with my first (and only so far) woman, I called myself a lesbian. After she and I broke up, and I still found myself attracted to men, I called myself bisexual. Then when that label was practically a death sentence in the gay community, I went back to lesbian. After really looking inward, I decided that yes, I am bisexual. And if someone can't handle the label, then well, that's their problem. Sexuality is often fluid and complicated. I think you're on the right path of exploring your feelings, your responses to men and woman, and your own desires.