You have to make love to my mind..before you can make love to my body. Does anyone else require the
emotional connection first ?
Yup. It's just part of who I am. A demisexual that does not do one night stands and avoids the hookup culture like th plague.
I prefer emotional connection before sex. Tried prostitutes and was not that good.
For the record, I was simply responding to what someone wrote and sought response to; I had no intention, NONE, of offering any advice to anyone, and I was not talking about marriage, deep emotional connection, or what have you. If I don't have some feeling for the person who is a potential sexual partner, I'd likely be better off just purchasing an inflatable or, like Portnoy, buy a bit of liver wrapped in some meat shop paper. It interests me that there are people who can interact with others without the least concern for them or themselves. No wonder killing someone has become an act that seems so much more easily done by so many in today's society. I have also had the experience of NOT showing any emotional connection to the other person, and have avoided doing so intentionally, so as not to imply feelings that were not there, only to discover that thte other person read into my behavior all kinds of serious emotional meaning that I wanted to avoid. It's so easy to hurt someone inadvertently, when you had the best of intentions---just some carefree, easy sex that would be pleasurable for both people, but it's difficut to imagine being more personal with another than engaging in sexual activity. Sure, it's not that way for some, but it is for many. Many have come to believe that submitting to that is to be taken as a sign of serious intentions. In conclusion, I would say that it is rather obviously up to both parties, and the wishes of both must be respected, but if one is going to engage in sex with absoutely no care whatsoever about the other person--and note that by "care" I do not mean to feel love or whatever--then it doesnt really matter who the other person is. That falls into the same category as masturbation, using the dildo, hiring the prostitute or handsome male escort. Yes, we are animals, but one reason we invented romance and romantic love is part of that "thin veneer of civilization" that is so often mentioned as separating us from the other animals. But even among many of the other animals, there are gestures of caring and wanting to satisfy needs other than simply the physical. If you take my remarks to indicate that I am condescending, I am sorry, because I certainly do not mean that to be the case. Perhaps I am an emotional deviant.
I appreciate your insight.
Last time I tried that aproach I drove her Crazy and that ruined the Carnal Knowledge part. Nah, nah. Like my ex wife used to say.. "marriage can wait for tomorrow, just shut up, some music and let's do it"
To sustain a relationship that is more serious, yes, of course. But for less serious? Not so much.
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A little kissing and hugging....? Or some erotica...?
Without a doubt, I am the prima Donna of this philosophy ????
I agree...might as well make love to a stick of wood! People who have never had that kind of experience might see it differently!
Is emotional connection sufficient? I have lots of male friends with whom I have deep emotional connections, but I am not sexually attracted to them.
For me, forming an emotional connection is basically making friends and if I make friends so that I can sleep with them, that would be deceptive and insincere. So, what does forming an emotional connection mean to you?
Most males I would say “no”. In general males don’t have to have an emotional attachment in order to have sex. It can just as easily be on the same level as a workout. Yes, the sex is much more satisfying and intense when there is an emotional attachment but it is not necessary.
This is true.
My Emotions are not on my mind so...
Which head is that emitting from?