Would you get married if you met the right person and what would the marriage actually mean to you?
I'd definitely be ok with a ceremony to announce our relationship, but I'd only get a wedding license if a radically awesome woman could articulate why that's different from a ceremony without the license. Relationships often have a lot of compromise, if she really wants an official marriage I'd make that happen for her.
I've dated two women in the last 10 years, one said marriage proposal was grounds for breakup and the 2nd just said it would be up for consideration in a few years.
I'm know I'm biased, my parents have been married for 53 years. They both had shitty childhoods and have worked through enormous problems but what they have together now is inspiring.
I never close the door on something completely. Once I thought myself "in love" with a girl I've known since high school. She was/is beautiful, funny, smart, and essentially the much cooler female version of myself. I wanted nothing more than to be with her for the rest of my life.
Unfortunately, the feelings I experienced weren't both ways. I found myself relegated to the friend zone, which was painful for a number of years as I tried to balance the way I felt for her with my desire to have her in my life in whatever way possible.
In the end I made the decision to maintain a friendship and have been able to force those feelings away. I'd never close the book on marriage as I do believe there is a counterpoint for every soul, but the feelings I have for this girl have made dating or developing outside relationships difficult for me. I'm rather old fashioned in a way as I believe that marriage is reserved for the right person.
I'm not going to say no because you never know. It would definitely have to be the right man and there would have to be major advantages to being married.
I am not sure what marriage means to me anymore. It's a promise that is easily (and frequently) broken. The religious like to wield it as a weapon. It often creates significant financial risk for one or both parties... My kids have grown, so that "need" for legality has passed.
Is there any other way to assure rights when one member is hospitalized? Most hospitals state visits from family, only. Unmarried is not recognized as family.
I would have to meet someone incredible for me to ever do that again
I would but would rather live together. My ideal relationship, in exchange for cooking and cleaning for me, I have sex 1-2 times a month.