Back in March, I began seeing someone - a widower and a Christian , that I met out in real life. I'll admit I was a bit skeptical on those points - but kept an open mind, as we seemed to be good activity partners in the beginning.
A few weeks ago, I felt "that" feeling - the one where you know it's not working, and on my request, we've backtracked to friends only - he reluctantly agreed.
We may have moved forward too soon - he was not ready to "be" with another woman yet (and honestly, not very good at it) - after a 27yr marriage.
But what truly wore me down , was two sort of unexpected aspects : very poor self esteem on his part (his poor self view eventually convinced me !), and a total lack of curiosity about much of anything ! (no books, no research, no questions)
I thrive, and am drawn to active minds and imaginations ... we are a mis-match relationship-wise.
Have any of you broken up a relationship over either of these ?
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Yep, that is why I'm here in Leesburg! 11 years committed to a lady in the FL Keys that bought land in the Ocala National Park! I would come up here for 10 days at a time & clear land, fence, build while camping in the woods. I built an out door shower & made it happen with a Colman camping water heater. Then I would go back to the Keys & get out house in order but we were not in order. I respected her religion which was not much but then she got into the Joel stuff over those 2 years. We sat about 15 months ago & just talked it out. I spent 3 weeks packing & moving up here because I had move 70% of what I had already. Got my Harley on a trailer the week before last years Bike Week & arrived. We do not even talk anymore, not any since that one talk. That all just made me say, I'm going to be up front & never be with a church person again. Then when I saw Agnostic.com..........I got in..... I feel so much better being just open.
Walter1968
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July 16, 2018
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Thanks for that - but in my case, the religion part took a back seat to self esteem, and lack of curiosity .
Once. It was very short lived. Even the great sex was not enough to keep it going for very long.
Sticks48
Level 9
July 16, 2018
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You will encounter a lot of human beings with 27 years of marriage with low self esteem issues. It is part of long marriage conditioning, that you are not completed without your partner.
GipsyOfNewSpain
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July 16, 2018
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This is my first and last one ...
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