My standard is people near by I can hang out for coffee, nice conversation, drinks, skunk drunk with crazy sex for three days in a raw without even having lunch....you know, the simple things in life ????

hippocrat?! Good luck bro!

Yeah, women usually stalk guys with horrible grammar. Don't know why that is..

Needs paragraph breaks. Too long didn't read. Self-indulgent.

You are who you are and you want what you want. Not everyone will respond positively to your feeling...and that's up to them.

My ''hot button'' is having someone presume to know how I might react to something. But, that's me.

I would be horrified to think a 20-year old would turn me down because I'm old and fat.

You know this sort of post makes me feel really old, back in my day we usually started off with, he she seems a nice person, perhaps I might see if they want to get to know me and I them.

It used to be a standing joke that only lonley losers held up signs with "No fat chicks" written on them.

So I think I get what your rambling post is getting at. Yes, we all have "things" we are attracted to in a potential mate. That's not shallow that's human nature.

You pointing out you aren't interested in a 50 year old 300 pound woman IS shallow. As is when someone puts on their profile (here or other dating sites) that they aren't into overweight people. Rather than call out what you DON'T like and be negative about that body type, say what you DO want. For instance someone fit, or I admire curves, etc.

I believe most of my dating profiles say something to the effect of "open to body type but generally gravitate towards a dad-bod and gray hair or bald." Sounds more positive than saying I don't want a scrawny man with shaggy hair.

"~Like a good Christian, Hippocrates is there." ? Take all the time you need. ?

It might very well be your loss if... you judge a book by its cover.

"We are all here to connect...". Not me, I am here to be snarky & annoying, and tell the truth as I see it as bluntly as possible, in as few words as possible. You, for example, could have said you were looking for a normal size/shape person........

Well, I'd been disappointed by men who fit my "standards" and pleasantly surprised by those who didn't, so that's opened my eyes.

The only thing I've learned about dating is when you go out and you're looking for a long list of very specific characteristics, you're absolutely f** doomed. If your breeding days are over, dating should be approached with much more of an open mind. I personally have found myself being very attracted to someone who physically I was not attracted to at all after spending some time with them. I've also gone out with men who were very attractive to me that I thought were complete assholes.