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Can men and women just be friends? Age-old and cliche rhetoric...
I am looking for people to hang out with and probably not ready for a romantic relationship after a recent divorce. I'm literally going to meetup.com looking for people to hang out with. Can you do stuff with members of the opposite sex as friends?

UrsiMajor 8 July 31
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Sure. I am mainly friends with gay men - have no idea why that is the case, but I do have a couple of straight male friends where there is zip attraction. None. ? platonic.

Livia Level 6 Aug 11, 2018
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Yes.

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Most of my friends are female. In fact, I don’t have any real male friends at this time. I used to, but circumstances changed and I don’t now. I have remained friends with most of my past girlfriends as well as wives, but that isn’t a requirement. So I vote yes!

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My two best friends are women. One I have known and been friends with for forty years.

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Absolutely.

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Yes, I had a freind who was a woman, and we were quite happy as such. I have a lot of female freinds in my religious organization, but not on a sexual level.

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I used to think no but life has shown me differently. Now I would say that if anything I find the intellectual company of women much more agreeable than that of men straight or gay. The whole premise of the question is a bit hetro centric anyhow. I think a more considered mature world is much more fluid than that

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Yes of course ... Can friends have sex? Yes of course!

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Ever since i have been a teenager, I have used this little question as my Lithmus test: Would i go to bed with this person? If the anser was No, I could relax. I knew how to act, what to say, how to discourage any approaches. It was usually my sense of smell that pushed the decision.
If the answer was Yes, things got a little more complicated. I had to watch my reaction and his/her at the same time. Sometimes I avoided that person because I was too busy with other things. Sometimes I strung them along because I could not stand the pain of not seeing them. Once I seduced a man who was sweet and innocent just becaue I wanted to feel good in a time of crisis.
In the meantime, I have married three times, have many relationships . Those always caused problems since none of my partners could imagine non-sexual relations.
I am not too thrilled with my choices anymore.
Now I live alone.

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It’s best if boundaries are set early. Unless you want to leave that door open..

Marz Level 7 Aug 1, 2018
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Sure, men and women can just be friends. All they need is one or more common interests and mutual respect.

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Absolutely. Of course it depends on the other people being mature. I am dear friends that under other circumstances, I would gladly date. It isn't an option, and I absolutely love having them in my life as they are.

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Yes, there are probably a lot.

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Many, many times I ask the same question, I see no reason why not, many times it is better to have friends of the opposite sex, offer a great liberation of pressures and competitions, that normally arise when you try to make yourself look as a good candidate, you get to know each other more honesty, without deception and false facades, I wish you good luck in your endeavor!

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In my experience, it rarely works out. Possible, but not likely.

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Definitely.

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No, not possible to just be friends

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Yes. Absolutely. I'm going through a divorce as well. I have a couple of friends that are girls. It feels good to be yourself and concentrate on yourself for awhile

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Why can't people just let stuff happen? If you met an amazing person that you hit it off with why put up barriers of time (saying you're not ready)? Life doesn't usually work on our desired schedules.

@maturin1919 then you'd be an idiot to let something good go.

@maturin1919 yep. I think people can handle way more than they give themselves credit for. Also doesn't mean anyone has to do anything but at least being honest helps.

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My best friend is a woman. She is one of the only people that I really feel comfortable with.
She comes over every morning and we share some coffee and great conversations.

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Yes you can. I have a number friends i hang out with.

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Yes and no.
Yes I can be only friend and in general I won't reject more than that, but is not always that I will work for this something extra. Most of times friendship is what we need atm.

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Yes, I had a freind who was a woman, and we were quite happy as such. I have a lot of female freinds in my religious organization, but not on a sexual level.

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Yes, I had a freind who was a woman, and we were quite happy as such. I have a lot of female freinds in my religious organization, but not on a sexual level.

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