Sorry for your loss. Hope to se you soon.

I look at funerals just like I look at the bible. "Folklore of an ancient tribe"

I look at funerals just like I look at the bible. "Folklore of an ancient tribe"

Funerals are a time for religions to preach their crap to a captive audience. When my mother died I had to listen to countless people tell me that "she was in heaven now". I had to shut my mouth and not tell them what I thought of their comment. Her funeral was LDS and that was a PR program for the church. Total crap

Like many others who have commented I too think funerals benefit the living by creating memories that will facilitate closure for you and family the rest of your lives. If you don't go you run the risk of creating a rift with a valued person within your circle of family and related friends. If you truly don't see any possible future relationship with anyone attending then don't waste your time by going. Good luck with this most difficult decision.

viewings and burials are weird. very gothic.not to mention the formaldyhide that leeches into the ground water

Yes, I think that is a perfectly reasonable position.

It's to show respect to a loved one. Not for religious reasons.

She’ll never know. I think you’re fine. Funerals are for the living, and if you’d stayed in contact with her, that’s likely more than most showing up to make an appearance. And if it’s a ‘good riddance’ occasion, all the better, go enjoy yourself … use it as an excuse to get off work.. My condolences for having had to spend time around someone unworthy of your attention.

Funerals are a means of saying goodbye. They’re catharsis. I go to them for the sake of family.

Never look at an open casket. Still haunted by viewing my father 3 years ago. Horror show.

I did not attend my father's funeral. I travelled 1,100 miles in one day to see him before we went in for surgery. In the week before, knowing that he was ill, I sent him an 8-page letter telling that I loved him, that I treasured the time we spent together hunting and fishing, and that I did not hold his mistakes (some big ones) against him. We spent a whole afternoon in his hospital room talking.
When he came out of surgery the next day, all appeared okay, so I headed back to complete work I had underway. He died 2 days later.

I felt that Dad and I had time with our talk, and I saw no reason to go back for the funeral. I still think I did the right thing.

My middle brother didn't go to our father's funeral. I had no problem with it, however my sister did. Besides, my dad will never know.

Funerals are for the living, not for the dead.

It's perfectly fine that you don't go. You have every right to live according to your principles.

I hate funerals because of the ridiculous price, my beloved dog cost £80 to put out of her misery and turn to ashes. a cheap human funeral is around £5,000. if you just have the cremation without all that palaver it's a £1,000. why? if I lose someone I love or dislike I'm going to feel however I feel as soon as I find out.then you get the pretend friends and relatives that never turned up in life making out they care and the relatives hoping for a slice of the will who never visited. I think you should just be taken as ashes by one person to be done with whatever you want. personally, i wouldn't care if I was made into fertiliser really.

I tell those around me that if you can't/don't/want to love and care for me now while I am here, don't waste your time showing anything towards me after I am gone.

Funerals are not for the dead, but for those who are still living. If you don't feel you need to go, then don't go. The only down side is if there are others who might look to you for comfort at such an event. The only reason there may be to go would be to give support and comfot to those who are still alive.

Funerals are for the benefit of the living not the deceased. It is an opportunity for the people to comfort and support one another in a time of grief and sadness.

If you are not in need of or to support and comfort, then the funeral has no benefit for you.

Fun-erals are not fun.