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Q: I was on Tinder the other day and saw a Long time friends profile who I have always been very attracted to, but who I wouldn't want to actually date. Her profile says she is seeking a FWB or hookups: which makes me more interested. She also knows my Long term partner and knows that we are polyamorous.

So what would you suggest as far as action? Should I pursue this and how?

I especially would be interested in opinions of women who date or are attracted to men.

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PolyComrade 6 Aug 8
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Maybe she hasn't approached you because she views poly as a relationship and not casual. Or it could be what @Gwendolyn2018 said and that she might not be interested. However, I had a good friend that we were mutually attracted to each other. But I told him no because of our friendship. I wish I had given him a chance because he has since passed and I will never know.

Yeah, there's a lot of maybes... I mean maybe she has no clue I would be into it or a interested? Just as possible, no?

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Level 9

Wear protection and get tested afterwzrds.....

I wear condoms for all sexual encounters, even with long time partners. And I get tested regularly regardless of wherther I have had new sexual partners or not, it's just a good health habit to get into.

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Level 6

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and feedback

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Level 9

I am honestly curious about the "attracted to but wouldn't want to date her" part. I don't think I've ever experienced that?

that's easy. Not everyone is compatable for a romantic relationship, but that doesn't mean you can't find them physically attractive. There's lots of people I would be into exploring sexually with if it was able to happen in a context that was mutual yet didn't involve building a dating relationship.

@PolyComrade thanks for the answer!

He just wants to bang her...Tinder sounds perfect for that!

@JimOnTwoWheels some things are "as plain as the nose on yer face", why beat around the bush? (Oh, see what I did there? Lol!)
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Level 8

Perhaps because you are a long-time friend; she may be looking for something strictly casual with someone she doesn't already know. Couldn't hurt to ask though.

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Level 8

If you feel there is true potential - try - then it's maybe.

If you think you want this, but do nothing, the answer will definitely be no.

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Level 7

Be thoughtful ,ease into asking,catch up on things.

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Level 8

You have nothing to lose by contacting her through the app and much to potentially gain.

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