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I've decided to try the whole online dating thing again and put this disclaimer on my profile (not here, this isn't a date site for me).

"Disclaimer: If "GOD" is anywhere on your profile or is something you value, please understand we will NOT be compatible. Thank you for being respectful and moving on."

Crimson67 8 Aug 18
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I feel the same way about pets on profiles. I consider pets to be one's "god" and just would not waste my time pursuing it as one would always be second place to their "god". Just my opinion.

@Byrdsfan My issue is strictly, that anyone (male or female) who displays a photo of their pet, indicates to me that in ANY conflict between me and the pet, I would come out on the losing end, and most likely have to leave, so why bother.

Although I don’t have them in any of my pics one here (I do have my dog), I can say that my daughters and my two small grandchildren would always come before anyone else. So really, I guess if you want to be the absolute number one in someone’s life you have to choose someone without any offspring.

I do wonder what sort of conflict is meant here. If I met someone who then said ‘The dog goes or I go’ then they would be the one to go for sure; I would not want to know such a selfish person. But I doubt many people would say ‘I can’t see you tonight because I’m washing my dog’ so not sure what conflict there would be other than the most basic ‘I don’t like pets’ versus ‘I like them’.

But the truth is that an animal lover and someone who doesn’t like pets simply aren’t compatible.

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A pedant would point out that your disclaimer puts "god" on your profile 😉

But, yeah, being upfront is probably smart.

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Seems like "just right". You're being honest. That's always a good thing.

Good luck, sweetie. I hope you have a positive experience.

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As others have said, I don't know if it will work, but couldn't hoit. LOL! Your disclaimer is straightforward and not rude. I think it's good as-is.

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Seems clear enough to me but you're not dealing with people (xtians) with any common sense, but good luck 🙂

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Gee where were you 30 years ago !!!!!! 🙂

@Crimson67 Actually a better question is, where the hell was I ??????..... we all had dreams to chase and unfortunately space and time is a big factor in the equation of life. Happy to have had the opportunity to talk to you here though. No doubt.

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Interesting approach. Please do let us know how people respond to it. I wish you success in finding who you are looking for. Be well.

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Just right.

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Good idea. You will probably get trolled but they will be easy to spot with that disclaimer.

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That should really thin the herd.... Best of luck.

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Like how you say this is not a dating site for you. Not for me either. Also think it's enough for a disclaimer. Although I suspect a lot of people will respond to your profile based on your photos and not read a lot of the details.

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I think it sounds very reasonable. I would guess many will blow right past it and never see it or ignore it.

Ohub Level 7 Aug 19, 2018
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I wouldn't have thought, once you're able to screen the god squad out, that you would have much problem getting a date, unless you're a real pain in the ass or really smelly?
Someone described you as a Kentucky Redhead, thought that made you sound like a chicken but that's a Rhode Island Red lol 😉

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I think just right. It has the right amount of information without looking like a rant about beliefs.

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Refreshing comment, I'm now following your posts.

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And you are telling me that we probably won't date from meeting on this site and don't want to date a theist because????????

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Oh man you in Ky. Be hard to find free thinkers there I think. Its hard enough here in California. In class we went around and introduced our selves one of my my statement was I am atheist out and proud. It is more acceptable to gay or lesbian to be atheist here. I am an atheist, hippy liberal.

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Amen! I need to add that on my site!

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I think it's fine. Your being open and up front about it and hopefully people will respect that.

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It sounds good to me. Let us know how it works. I'm thinking you will hear from believers anyway; but I want to know why. Do they not read the profile, do they not care, or do they feel the need to try to change you? You could turn this into a scientific study and sell your results. Ok, my mind is racing, I think I need a Saturday afternoon nap. lol

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I think it's a personal thing. I've had a hard time online dating in Florida simply because we do live in the bible belt and for most people in the South, an atheist is like an alien.

gmash Level 4 Aug 18, 2018
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I had a whole paragraph about my atheism on another site and still got believers wanting to meet me.

They either think you are easy or want to save you LOL

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What ever makes you happy.... 'envy the smart guy that will put religion in the back burner for a Lady like you! I know I woild kill the pope if you ask me too. Happy Hunting!

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Being as there's all degrees of "believers" out there, you could possibly be eliminating someone who would be a fine match.
But hey - you're the one composing the profile ...

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What is the profile says Goddamn?

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I don't get automatically excluding someone because they're a believer.

@Crimson67 too cryptic for me.

Really? You're a level 7, so you've read countless posts and comments on this very subject. I would wager that the vast majority of people here would prefer -- or even require -- any potential partner to have similar worldview. What don't you get about it? Simply because it works for you?

@BlueWave It simply seems silly. I guess I'm not that rigid in my thinking.

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