Relationships must be built on trust or it will not last. Dishonesty destroys trust which can be very hard to ever regain.

When you're honest, you never have to worry about what you said before. Honesty across the board is the best case. And for the ones that keep insisting that little "white" lies are okay, I will repeat what I have said before: I would rather hear an ugly truth than a pretty lie.

I like that you are revisiting this train of thought now that you are single again. I think honesty is extremely important but there is also privacy and trust that has to be considered. Your partner should be able to trust you and you should not give any reason for them not to. Once a person starts to act sketchy and questionable they make the other worry and the trust begins to weaken. It's definitely a mutual thing to discuss with your serious partners.

Some of these responses honestly shock me. You are either 100% in a relationship or not. Withholding anything from your SO means you're not giving it your all or they're not truly the right person for you. No secrets, no withholding truths, no telling lies or even little white lies. Build that relationship with a strong foundation. Disclose every facet of yourself. Be loved for who are are, who you were and who you hope to become with your partner.

Life is short. Get through it the best you can and try not to damage others. Sometimes deception is just part of it.

It is a slippery slope. Once the "little white lies" are okay your moral compass starts to compromise and all hell breaks lose. Don't even start. Just say what is real and don't fudge.

I can't stand being lied too, therefore I am brutally honest and expect the same.
I've always said "Be careful what you ask me, you may not like the answer.".

You might want to read "The Rules," a guidebook for masculine-trait women who lack the hard-wired instincts of a typical cis hetero woman with strong femme traits.

When with men, let them take the lead, don't sleep with them until you're exclusive, never treat men as soul buddies..i.e., don't pour out your heart, tell them about your past exes, etc...save that for your girlfriends. Don't be clingy or needy, but have your own life, friends, and work.

Let them pay for dates, give the romantic gifts, and stick to neutral gifts and cards. Typical cis hetero males with strong male traits need to be the predator, and if women reverse roles on them, they will usually flee.

I lied for couple of weeks to cover a surprise birthday party for my ex wife.

depends what purpose the honesty is serving white lies are ok i think if they are infrequent and not covering up some indiscretion that the person telling the lie is ashamed of or knows would lead to mistrust also truth can be subjective ie i don't like that item of clothing i know they do why would i make them doubt it just say yes you look wonderful as always or some such thing and move on

If it is something that would hurt their feelings surely some discretion is merited. What I mean is say an old flame was to contact you what would be the point of making the one you love jealous. Trash it and burn it.

If the relationship is good and you want it to stay that way, be honest. There is a type of destructive honesty though, in which someone becomes brutally honest at the expense of compassion for there loved one. For example, I would not tell anyone they are starting to look older even if they asked me. There is just plain crassness and rudeness in which a person gives a unsolicited comment that is rude. They may plead, " I was just being honest." No, they were just being rude. Honesty can hurt, but should not be used as a weapon in my mind.

Humm, interesting! I would say if it can land u in jail, shut the fuck up!!! LOL However, if u can't be honest, then why bother! I believe a lasting relationship is when ur significant other is willing to accept ur flaws & querks and still want to be with you! I also think, little white lies r acceptable. I.E. if asked if I farted, I'm going to say no, until it becomes undeniable! LMAO

I think the relationship changes the perspective and things that hadn't been addressed early in a relationship are often difficult to address at a later stage. During the honeymoon phase the tolerance levels are high and certain things that don't matter can develop into an irritant.
I think it would be perfect to be totally honest, but I don't think it is really that easy.
I realised that I had frequently not even been honest with myself. We drag the burden of education along.

Truth is the currency of love. Being single again is not evidence of improper behavior towards your significant other. Staying together with someone is tough. You are very attractive. Don't give up. Trying is never failure...giving up is. I would feel so lucky to have a healthy relationship with someone with so much natural beauty as you.

SO is the key factor and you should always be telling the truth. I've been told by ex's I'm too honest but that's just me.
In a new relationship honesty to a degree. I won't lie I just either answer a question with a question or change the subject.
Keep looking you'll find someone close to your age that has the same honesty trait you're looking for or even a little older. Lol

Don't ask me a question that you don't want to hear the answer to.

I am one who appreciates the time I get to spend being single and being able to “selfishly” focus on only myself. None of my exes believed in total honesty in a relationship. Not saying it to insult them, it just wasn’t what they believed in. If that isn’t the popular belief with men, I would be kind of surprised that ALL the men I’ve ever seriously dated lived that way. Wth? Haha. Well, I am the common denominator so.....

It is good to be honest about current stuff...all stuff! No need, however, to divulge # of sexual escapedes/partners!

Sorry to hear it. I there is a problem where idealism, even though lip service is paid to it, isn't really welcome in society. Maybe it's culture v evolution, and evolution always wins.

A truly healthy relationship is completely open and honest. The desire to lie and hide things is simply the expression of incompatibility... A perfect partner is perfectly supportive and thus nothing ever need be hidden.

However, it's important to remember that people are imperfect. Often strong relationships are rife with incompatibility and dealing with these relationship hurdles often involves white lies and 'protecting from the truth'.

Strive to find that partner that is always supportive. We all need that ?

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