My mother taught me many saying to live by like if you do not have something nice to say, say nothing. I have a feeling that some grown people feed their insecurities by puting others down as most children will do as they are maturing. Do you think it is wise to feel sorry for grown people who verbally attack rather than feeling angry?
With all due respect to your mother's well intentioned advice: "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything" in my experience, while superficially a laudable sentiment, is in practice mostly used to keep people quiet and conformant when they should speak up and call a spade a spade. It supports the "keep things outwardly and superficially nice but inwardly seething" ethos of the American midwest and much of the South. I think it's important not to be back-stabbing and gossiping, of course, but there's nothing wrong with calling out actual bullshit, either.
I fix my sense of outrage at stupid remarks by being snarky!
@Donotbelieve thankyuh, thankyuhvurry much?
It is a sign of their insecurities. I don’t feel sorry for them but I wish they could find another way to address their pent up aggression, sometimes the mildest of remarks can trigger a completely uncalled for invective.