Ugh! I hate when they say. Things like that! Like why the hellcwoukd god take someone back if he knew in advance he’d take them to begin with?! Sometime things in life happen I think cause the Universe is random. I wish there were something uplifting I could say to you, but I so t sugarcoat things like these idiots! I reckon their intent is good and mean you well, though.

For your own peace of mind, it could be better if you just take it as "oh well, they don't know what to say". I don't even know what to say other than I hope time will help you to find acceptance.

I'm sorry that happened. It must have been very difficult and I hope you find peace and happiness.

One can only assume that they think this will be a comfort. It is impossible to get into the mindset of a believer, but I do think they say this with the best of intentions. It is not a comfort for you to hear them, but if they are said by people who mean well I think just saying thank you, as you have done, is the best way to deal with them. May I add my sympathies to those of the others who have already done so, and hope time has managed to heal some of your pain.

I am so sorry. I know that must be painful. People do not know what to say. So they say ridiculous things that make them feel better but not you.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what you are going through. If you’d like someone to talk to please let me know. I’m not an expert, but I’m a good listener.

People don’t know what to say. They are not trying to be insensitive, they mean well.

I lost 3 babies. It was one of the hardest times in my life. The way I got through “good intentions” was to realize that these people wanted to comfort me. So I stopped listening to their platitudes and just said “thank you” after some tried to comfort me. That way it was over quickly and I did not have to deal with it.

Early on I tried to “educate” people and tell them why what they said was offensive. But they never “got it” so I was uncomfortable, they were uncomfortable and it did not help. So I learned that the best thing was to ignore the words and hear the “intent”.

I hope this helps you deal with this situation. I am sorry for your loss. I wish you well.

Religious people say all kinds of nonsense, like saying "god" needed another angel so that's why some child was killed in a car wreck. If you can, avoid talking to religious people at all or letting them know about your life.

And I'm so sorry for your loss.

Why do people think this makes people feel better?

They don't, they do it to make themselves feel better, they imagine that by saying crap like that they are "doing something", they are being missionary and spreading the word and love of gawd by being an apologist for actions that were he (gawd) real would be acts of inexcusable cruelty, they would rather try and explain away than admit the truth that he is imaginary.
Rely on the true love and comfort of family and friends and move forward knowing this is not the end of your life and the joy of family you can still experience.
My daughter lost her first child too, but now she has given me four beautiful grandchildren who the whole family love unconditionally.
Comfort is in the future not the past. Your anger does you credit, now use it to strong and carry on.

Most people have little to no ability to face cold, hard truths, so they obfuscate and euphemize. They create reason where there is none, or where it is actually too difficult to face directly. They insert justice, fairness, and hope where they do not belong.

I'm so sorry for your loss! They are not acknowledging your grief at all by saying that.