Honestly? I can't think of a single negative. My house is clean, my finances are in order, I no longer have any credit card debt, there's no one around to ignore me, and even though I'm not with anyone yet, at least I don't have anyone around to turn me down when I feel turned on. I've lost weight without trying, I smile and laugh so much more these days, I can go where I want when I want, and I'm never subjected to his crappy cooking (which was the only thing he contributed to in our household). I'm no longer supporting an unemployed, depressed hoarder. My life is so much better, some days I don't even know how to handle it!

I’m much happier and am (slowly) becoming more self confident

I am no longer a raving bitch. Just a happy, pleasant woman, who has a clean house, money to pay the bills and nothing being repossessed or bill collectors calling. No big bills from Vegas. Just me and total bliss!

Not having to deal with a drunk ass when I get home and the verbal abuse that went along with it. But I hate doing the grocery shopping.

I was reminded of my asking my brother before I got married how you know if you're in love and his answer, "if you have to ask, you're not"...lesson learned

Has been 11 wonderful years of divorce . I feel free to be me , more honest , less lazy .

My custody of my daughter.

Let's see I get to keep all my own money now I have personal freedom I actually own my house I can't be kicked out on a whim and I have a wonderful sense of Peace of Mind

No walking on eggshells 24/7. No more feeling unwanted, unattractive. Rediscovering passion for so many things I had completely forgotten about.

There are so many positive things that came after my divorce, I'm not even sure I know where to start!! I don't have to cook or clean up after somebody else. I can have real peace and quiet. There isn't anybody else that can fuck up my finances. Tons and tons of stress went away. I rediscovered my sexuality. (22 years of bad sex will kill your sex drive.) Even not having to sit across the dinner table from someone with disgusting manners turned out to be a huge positive. Not having to deal with his PIA family was a side bonus.

Happiness. Self esteem. Peace. Grace.
Those are things I couldn't have while angry all the time

Stopped escaping as much. Drinking is way down.

Aw ... Thank you everyone. These comments are awesome and inspirational! I'm trying so hard to look at the positive now.

The end opened some beginnings.

All the strange conditions behaviors I put together to deal with her dysfunction were gone. I could enjoy just being social without having to compensate...

Give it time. You'll get through it.

I would have to say for me it would be getting my finances in order and under control and a whole lot less stress. I tried very hard to try and have us work together on the finances and work towards making a budget but was always told that I had no idea what I was doing and that she had everything all laid out in her head. When things would go bad, as they usually did, I would get blamed for it. I was the only one working at the time too. Her daughter wouldn't do anything around the house and my ex would bitch that she had to do everything herself. I would help out here and there but then get told I didn't do it right. It was such a relief to move out and get my own place and just take care of myself. Everything fell into place once I started doing the things I wanted to do financially. It feels so great to not be told that I do everything wrong. I'm so glad I'm not in that situation anymore.

I had the freedom to make a career change.

I have . I don't get talked over.

I just don't understand the messiness factor. Why is my sex generally so damn messy? I have dealt with male family slobs. I don't understand it. I like living mess free and clean up after myself. Not that I make a big mess anyway.

The ability to be me! My kids (grown up now) who I have a great relationship with!

I get along better now with my ex than before. The kids are getting co-parented, no more fighting.

friendship

We both agreed up front not to go through divorce attorneys. I saved quite bit of money, that and 17 apartments?

Go to all out war with ex mother in law.

More room to toss and turn at night in bed. Love the room to stretch even though I still actually sleep/lay on one side of the bed.