Yeah, that's annoying I'm sure. It's a complex problem, too. Guys are supposed to be the ones to put their necks out there when meeting. Because of that, we are supposed to be brave and handle the constant rejection inherent in that kind of set up. Some people build odd algorithms to deal with the problem - just carpet bomb the profiles and see who responds, find attractive people and try to say something that fits the texture of romance seen in pop culture, go online and vent hopping someone is feeling maternal... most of the approaches are inefficient and hint at social maladjustment. I'm sure it's no party for women either.

As long as we default to these cultural norms, this is the result. I could think of some better ways for us to do this stuff, but few want to change. So, here we are stuck on the proverbial hamster wheel.

Maybe tell people in your profile to connect with you in posts prior to hitting on you. You can then shut them down in posts. If they don't connect with you there first, then they didn't read your profile and just delete straight away. That could minimize you having to review the contacts and keep things social. It wouldn't fix anything, but it might help.

Best of luck to you!

Most cis, hetero men just go for the profile photo of the cutest, youngest female they can find, and often begin trying to seduce them asap by any means possible.

If they do read a profile..wait. I've never encountered a male who ever read mine first before messaging me.

You make some really great points. Food for thought. I think it’s important to make friends and then build relationships.

Matter of perspective.

As a guy living in the middle of nowhere, this website is primarily a tool to enjoy the input from rational (not theists) people and troll the occasional theist that leaves his slime trail on these pages.

Sounds to me like you have a good attitude about everything. Keep it up!

What about one night stands or flings? Lol

Sometimes we forget how hard it can be when one is attractive when there are so few of you remaining. That is a problem that I would like to experience. I hope your post gives you some relief. Peace.

I assume most people take them seriously... Or I hope they do at least... One bad apple and all that... And ironically. The original phrase was that one bad apple DOES spoil the bunch, despite what the popular song may claim. Lol

I dunno. Some dudes like to cast a wide net. If he can't take no for an answer, that's on him.

really he prayed to god thats hilarious he thought someone who identifies as atheist would find that an ok statement fuck me some people are beyond stupid

I'm here for fun, for friend and all other kinky stuff ??

Your expectations are reasonable. They even ask if you are lookin for dating or not. I am married and like you just looking for meaningful dialog with people of the same beliefs.

This kind of behaviour is baffling to me, it smacks of duplicity. I don't understand it, literally. Sorry you are experiencing that.

I'm open to meeting men but I get private msgs from all types of people, some from those "here for community ". I don't think men are as intelligent as women in this regard. What can you do?

I joined out of curosity, sure it seemed like a dating site at first. Then you start reading some of the posts, I was truly amazed. I've been looking for a place that I fit in. It really is an awesome site. I've never felt more at home with people I've never met. It's really nice to find open minded people. Who Knew ?

One learns something every day. I didn't realise that there is a 'Here for Community' button. This site is laid out as a dating site and often it is hard to answer the questions outside of that context.

I think it is how this site is advertised. It said that it was a "dating" site, and when I got here it seemed that is a bit inaccurate. This looks more like a forum, which is fine, and if forum members start dating, that's bonus, right.

What do you expect when posting on a dating site? People here are interested in finding a real person. To act so haughty is simply bullying men.

What ... stop say what. He prayed for you? Well thats a funny turn.

although I put down here for Community only,if I should so happen to meet someone that would be fine. I am single. I just don't put myself too far out there. To be honest, I've given up on any and all dating sites.

I my self am here for both community and the possibility of meeting a like minded, non-delusional individual. Sorry that you have to suffer with individuals who are to lazy to take the time to read your profile. The first thing I do when I see someone I am possibly interested in is read their profile.....duh!!!!!

Post a pretty thumbnail & that will happen.

I think its simply - they just don't read the profile, don't understand it, don't think you are serious, or want to try anyway. No big mystery here.

Ha. I guess I obviously can't speak for everyone but yes.
Of course I actually don't really view this as a dating site either.

Sorry about your unfortunate need to block people but do what you must to make it enjoyable for you. That should be all that counts

There are people who don’t understand what this site is for.... just block or ignore. I have found a lot of people who just want community... keep looking. I am open to both so, it is a bit different for me.