Don’t you hate it when someone gets to you? When you feel like you let your guard down and they launched this incredible blow and now your heart hurts like it’s physically shattered inside your chest and your walking around with this lump in your throat and this feeling of utter heartbreak.
I hate it when someone is able to make me feel vulnerable. I go out of my way to be kind to everyone. Even the people who may not deserve it. I figure those people need a little kindness in their lives the most. I suppose it’s just a little overwhelming when you realize someone could be so dismissive of your feelings. I feel foolish.
How do you get past things like this ? ETA:
I wasn’t clear and I apologize. This wasn’t a partner. It was someone I considered a friend. He isn’t abusive and I m not sure he exactly meant to hurt my feelings. I think he was annoyed with me and said something that was ultimately very hurtful.
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Some people are with depth of feeling, sentient. Not all humans feel in the deep. Emotional Intelligence is a rare quality. Honesty and Truth is a rare quality. A study was completed short time ago that showed intelligent people are more Honest, and have a Greater capacity for seeing the honesty vrs mendacity. It is for this reason that highly inteligent people, as par the study, have few friends.
Etre
Level 7
Aug 30, 2018
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If you have a friend who is emotionally abusive or a gaslighter, drop him immediately and never contact him again. Make sure you aren't making excuses for him, putting yourself at risk by trying to "loving."
Block and delete him from all social media, tell people who ask about him that "we've grown apart."
Attend meet ups and find new friends.
birdingnut
Level 8
Aug 29, 2018
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Hurt people hurt people. Sometimes without even noticing.
JenBeberstein
Level 8
Aug 29, 2018
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Sorry to hear this. The only thing I can say is to keep loving any way. Not everyone in this world is out to get us, and while we have to protect ourselves, at the same time, you never know what opportunities we may gain by staying open and not closed hearted. Best of luck.
Chilton704
Level 5
Aug 29, 2018
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"The things that others do is not because of you it's because of themselves "
"Take nothing personally "
"Assume nothing "
These are not my sayings but they took me from a very dark place into something much brighter. You will be fine, try to apply those statements and see.
Happyheretic
Level 7
Aug 29, 2018
1
Time & filling that time with family, friends, hobbies, and eventually someone new.
mattersauce
Level 7
Aug 29, 2018
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It's good to recognise that even the most abusive person has issues, it suggests you are a very empathetic person. But if you do not cultivate defence mechanisms you will quickly become a doormat. You will subconsciously give out signals that will attract abusers. I guess ultimately you have to decide do you want to change the person you are or are you prepared to bear the hurt. Ideally for most us we try to find a middle ground somewhere in between.
SimonCyrene
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Aug 29, 2018
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