I had dinner at the home of my youngest child tonight. She, husband, and baby actually live with her dad in the house we all lived in pre-divorce, so I had dinner with my ex too, as well as our oldest and her husband and son. As we sat down the ex asked me if I would say grace. And I smiled and said "that would be a no." I think the girls were holding their breath for a few moments.... I try to show my girls always, always, always take the high road.
Who's the "he" who asked you, your son in law or your ex? Both of them should know better but depending on context I might give the son in law the benefit of the doubt that he was just operating on autopilot and was actually extending a courtesy to you. But it was still an unforced error.
it was the Ex. I don't think he has fully grasped that I'm not Xian. He likely thought he was being magnanimous, that's the way he is.
I assume he knows you're atheist and asked just to be a dick?
We've never really had that conversation. He is the type that thinks if you're not Jewish or Muslim you are therefore Xian. He's not the most observant of people. He is also a Dick. His name is Richard, but dick is sooo apt!
I'm glad you did that in my personal opinion if you guys used to be married he already knows that you're an atheist so I think that he was trying to be an a** and make you look bad in front of your kids anyway so f*** him
Low road or not, I always feel compelled to respond in kind to passive/aggressive comments from people with doG in the head. My response to Christians telling me to have a blessed day is stock: Allah willing. If any relation of mine ask me to say grace I would respond with a bit of sarcasm having to do with their invisible friend.