Sooo, here’s a question. I have met a person of interest and we spent some time together last night. By the end of the evening, it was apparent there was some mutual attraction and interest. As we were saying good night, I moved close to give her a soft kiss on the lips. She pulled away slightly and said, ever so politely, yet firmly...”That stuff has to come off your face before we do any kissing”. I have had my mustache/goatee for many years and am feeling odd about the idea that I need to get rid of it in order to pursue this person any further. Guys?...Ladies? Any thoughts?
For just a little kiss? On the first date?
I know I would be looking for the exit sign....
Controlling Bitch! RUN! A person may dislike facial hair, of course. A nice person would have said so Immediately, or even rejected your pic. This weasel waited until you were "invested" to try to extort behavior (shaving) from you & made you feel small/uncomfortable/awkward/foolish. RUN!
any other red flags? she could find beards irritating to her skin but if its just aesthetics "sorry no where does that leave us?" is a course of action you can take without coming of as dismissive. I looked at your pics thats just a beard and no more.good luck
One ex had a well-groomed goatee and it was softer than dealing with the scratchy grizzle of a five o'clock shadow. Plus the beard absorbed and released pheromones, so I loved snuffling up against his face to sniff them..
I’m just throwing this out there as a female who accepts people as they choose to be. If I had a beehive hairdo and a pursuer of mine said, “No kissing until I change my hair.” That would be MY red flag. Meaning his way or else. Like, “My way or the highway.” The question to myself is do I accept this as normal and will this new normal become worse and start to include other things. I would ask myself is it worth it to me to change myself for him.
They should accept you as you are. If they don't they are not worth your time. If she demands something like that now what's stopping her from asking for something big to change later. There are more fish is the sea and you will find one that deserves your time.