Hard to put names to these things as most are IRL "wild caught" chemistry but I do have weaknesses that are important to me. I've a thing for noses(longish),scent, angularity, wit.
I don't care if you're 4'11 if you're ok that I'm taller than you.
BUT ...Paramount a sense of mutual attraction. I don't care if you're a senior version of Jared Leto if there aren't sparks it's not happening.

Other than that there is a delicate dance. To that I want the dance, not the chase & for sure don't make me chase you, or at least not for long because I'll call that bluff. (my late dh learned that one the hard way)

what i find attractive in a man is a combination of intelligence, kindness, humor and empathy. with those things, everything else falls into place... provided the man finds what he is looking for in me, as well. so i guess i add to the list "and he loves me." i have a guy. he is kind, funny and empathetic. he used to be intelligent; he has alzheimer's now. he loves me. what can i do? i love him too.

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Someone who is basically compatible with me, with a few surprises. Sexy - to me. And someone who is a bit "out there", who "gets" me !

I wrote in my profile:

I'm seeking an athletic, intelligent man with a great sense of humor who treats me with respect and kindness. Shared recreational activities are a bonding experience for couples. That's why I want a man who also loves hiking, and only shoots with a camera.

Although I'm a great cook, I'm not willing to do all of the meal planning, preparation and cooking. Everyone loves the magic words: "Dinner is served."

Loving relationships work best when we add a certain spirit, an attitude of goodwill. I wouldn't know a grudge if it mugged me.

I miss the tender touch, laughter, conversation, intimacy, teamwork and fun of a committed, loving relationship.

I'm not in your age category, but I peruse the profiles to see if anyone is compatible with me, with similar background, hobbies, age, education, interests, etc.

So far, I've seen a number of men in that category, but they live across the world from me, so that's not going to work out.

That's a pretty broad question. But I've never felt like women want something very different from what I want ... kindness, appreciation, consistency, integrity, curiosity, things like that. The devil is, of course in the details: how those things are perceived, prioritized, and communicated; what layers of neurosis and hangups and preconceptions these exchanges have to pass through in both parties, etc.