I'm usually clueless when a man asks me for a date because they are usually friends and going for coffee or going to a club to me means hanging out as friends. But, usually I would be too busy anyway, and they think I rejected them when I didn't even know they were asking me out. They are usually good at not taking it too personally.

Total strangers who asked me out had been pretty good at taking rejection. I usually try to politely say no. But I've had men or groups of men wanting me to get into their vehicles while I walk down the street. I don't do THAT kind of dates.

Never. Not even in my head.

no my grandma would have killed me my mum would have fed the remains to the pets and my sister scares the shit outta me

Never done it, because I get around being rejected by just never asking them out. I beat the system.

The relationships that I've been in have all begun because the woman showed interest, clear interest, first. I figure if she's interested she'll let me know. Is that wrong?

Yup. It's pretty awesome!! But honestly, it says nothing about the person asked out and everything about the person asking.

Those are not men they are boys

Their reaction to rejection is a revelation to their intentions. You have a right to say no and they have only a right to accept your answer. Any more words out of their mouth besides a polite exit is manipulative. “Can we still be friends?” “How about a coffee then?”

It’s a trap.

! Several times. They get angry, yell and call names, then claim they are the nice guys. One even stalked me.

Hell no. I've always prided myself on being a gentleman, even in the face of rejection. And I know a thing or two about rejection, lol. Just because someone didn't have the same idea about a relationship as I did is no reason to fault them or take it out on them.

We all have the right to accept or deny any and all advances. Self respect is required in dealing with that acceptance or denial!

There is no reason to get angry when rejected. Just move on...

If men are nasty to you on this forum, you can go to their profiles and block them. If a man becomes abusive or hostile to you in a bar, call the bouncer.
If he becomes abusive in the street, call the police, etc.

NEVER trivialize dangerous male behavior.. take steps to stay safe.

I have done this. I am ashamed of it. I have soul searched and found my answer inside a bottle of cymbalta.

And from a mans point of view....yes I have been harassed many times from woman who were really niceish but when you tell them that you want to not meet again you are subject to a lot of abuse about how bad you are whether you have slept with them or not....

No, never have. Might be a NY thing. Swearing is very common 'round there. And Jersey as well.

No never did that, not too good about asking, but it spares you the rejection.

no, I just feel rejected. I do try and read people so it hardly happens says me living alone but you can't make someone fancy you.

NO! Now I just move on.

I have been physically assaulted for declining an invitation. That was scary!

I have never experienced being reacted on in a negative manner as I disclose every single time (if he's clueless) that I'm transgender. Honesty is the best policy.

Yes it’s really hard to let someone know that you are not interested in them , I have been called all sorts of wonderful names, ya fucken lesbian, seems to be a favourite but generally speaking most guys are quite mature about it. The older they are, the nicer.

No, I’m too much of a gentleman to do something like that.

Yea I have done that

Never.