Im curious to know how many people believe that after the age of 60-65 or even older that they are going t find someone who make them have butterflies in their stomach like they may have had when they were in their teens and twenties?
Love can come at any age. I am 60 now soon to be 61. I fell head over heals 3 years back. It ended as these things sometimes do. Getting over it is like all injuries, harder when your older.
Not love in its classical sense but I am reminded of a ladies diary entries on a hook up site. It went like this:
"I am 68, widowed for 10 years and sex was not very much part of our marriage. Now I would like to experience that side of life". About 3 weeks later the post was "WOW"
Happened to my older cousin. She recently married and they are so stinkin' cute.
I've known for a while now that "love is a decision." At my age today I do not want to run off with you or pack up and move to another area. The physical feelings you had in the teens or twenties do not last forever. It's true that my last wife just turned 40 and that I was also once married to an older woman. None of it means I'm making any snap decisions on love today. I probably will not go visit you and I'm not going to send you any money.
Lol.... What? You're not going to send me money...lol.... I don't recall asking for money fromyou or anyone else. Weird response.
@Annaise The money response is there because of all the scammers in every dating site. Usually they even have a fake picture. Some take this as a dating site. I look at it as more for community. In one dating site a scammer tried to get me using pics of a porn star. When I pointed this out the reply was "maybe it is her scamming me." The person even had a Facebook page and all. This type of scam also happens to women as well and you can fact check a pic on Google.
I still do, very much. I've felt it a couple times in my 60's, but time revealed there were one or two vitally-important mismatched issues. So it CAN happen. It's a numbers game... we just have to sort through more choices to find the right one. When we start thinking the future has nothing wonderful in store for us anymore, that's when the suicide and drug addictions graph line heads straight up. I'll never give up! THE ONE might be right here among this group, but be located far enough away that we just might never meet (like Hawaii). Let's all keep looking... there's someone there for us.
I'm 57 and I hope that it happens again someday, but I am not counting on it. I don't want to predicate my future life's happiness on something that gossamer and fleeting.
If the butterflies are there... believe me, they will get active.
The butterflies get better with practice. ?
I'm not sure one can practice "butterflies". Perhaps, I'm just not a romantic, and tend to view most things with a more critical eye than some people.
Not sure about butterflies, how about that lovely feeling when you see someone and they smile at you and behave like they are happy to see and be with you. I don't need fall down love I like close friends who are fun to be with! At 64 almost 65 I have been divorced and a member of the last man standing club, love and friends are to important to be given over to teenage feelings.
I'm learning to love myself. I have butterfly moments at times when I overcome difficult issues. Maybe someday I'll have butterfly moments with someone else too but for now, I'm happier alone than I ever was with anyone else. I'm 41.
Even at 50 it still feels daunting. Sigh!
Of course it's possible, but I just hope it doesn't happen to me! I'm 54 and looking. I sure hope I don't spend 12 years looking. Or meet somebody now break up in five years and then have to look again.
I don't want that at all, if I meet a special person my hope is for interesting conversation, shared goals and a genuine spirit of both Independence and joy of life. The best love is through mutual respect and fondness.
I think you have a good point.