Trying to find people to date is stressful. Especially being a lesbian. It honestly seems like there's no single wwdw in my area. The only ones I know are old enough to be mom. I haven't dated since I came out! I'm not trying to look for something serious but I would like to get to know women my age. I'm trying out POF. I tried HER but only sign up is free everything else you have to pay for. At least with POF you can chat for free. They do have a bunch of nice perks that if I had the spare money I might buy. I hate it when chicks ghost me though. You know when you've been texting for awhile and you think everything is going great than all of a sudden they don't respond to any texts or messages and completely disregard you. Know if you're not feeling it fine we haven't actually met yet or anything but it would be nice if you could at least say "Hey I'm not feeling this." I'm not going to stalk you or be pissed or anything. Really I'm not. It's tough out there. you put yourself on the line and don't get much in return. Thanks for letting me vent. Have a good night.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.I was on POF for over 6 years, never gave them a dime! Just ignore all requests!
AnneWimsey
Level 9
Nov 8, 2018
0
Oh I'm not paying for it. And to their cerdit they don't really push it
Welcome to the dating life in digital era, when everyone has thousands of contacts, and they are all greedy to have the "ideal" dating person.
My advice, don't take dating too serious, use it to make friends and soon you will find someone that clicks.
Pedrohbds
Level 7
Nov 8, 2018
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I’m sorry you feel lonely and agree that online dating — and trying to meet someone IRL—can be a grind. Maybe it would help here if you added a bio so people could get a sense of who you are, and also post some photos. The only one you have shows more of your cat than your face. There are so many fake accounts here and elsewhere that people have walls up. Don’t give them a reason to think you aren’t sincere.
UUNJ
Level 8
Nov 8, 2018
2
The whole purpose, for me, of a site like this is screening BEFORE getting well enough acquainted; which should automatically cause a lot of starting and abandonment because all parties are 'weeding' and I don't understand why arrested communication should be taken as something personal. It doesn't bother me in the least. Either she's interested in reciprocal exploration or not; if not, no biggie. It works both ways. Too many other contacts going on here and off the net to be bothered by it.
I kind of understand the tough part, being a transgender lesbian ( 
), about being misunderstood. Attitudes are so regimented and superficial. Lying, self-deception and manipulation are the gold standard. Comfort is found in the familiar.
Silver1wun
Level 7
Nov 8, 2018
1
I've gotten ghosted twice on this site already These weren't even romantic relationships, just potential friends who dumped me out of the blue so it can happen here too. I accept it as the cost of socializing on the internet and shrug it off.
But it's still disappointing so I feel ya.
Sgt_Spanky
Level 8
Nov 7, 2018
1
It is tough.. we have more choices now but we also have more issues.. which makes it hard to separate out the chaf from the wheat .
In the end it just comes down to,
you just have to keep putting yourself out there,
and find a way to even find enjoyment in the horrors of modern dating.
Love happens when we least expect it, but won't happen if you don't strive towards it..
hippydog
Level 8
Nov 7, 2018
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