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"I have just unfriended a number of people on facebook that gave a positive response to a meme that in graphic detail compaired the events of 9-11 to an extreme game of Jenga",

paul1967 8 Nov 8
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Yea....that's in poor taste.

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I like dark humor. But the thing is if you make a controversial joke it better be funny. This is not. It's low hanging fruit.

Dietl Level 7 Nov 8, 2018
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I don’t find it funny at all but I would have probably deleted the post and move on. I have a # of born agains and/or drumpf supporters but have just unfollowed them so their shit doesn’t end up on my page.

I agree

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That 'meme' is in very poor taste (IMHO) and I don't find it funny in the slightest. However, I tend to ignore things on social media that I don't agree with though.... if I really feel the need to respond, I try to keep it calm and simple. It would color my opinion about anyone who found that funny.

I must be a less tolerant person. Most of the time I agree but this pushed a painful button.

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Jet fuel can't melt steel beams

Just like aluminium plane wings cannot smash through steel girders leaving a Hanna Barbera style plane shaped hole in the side of a building.

Fuel + Fire = Heath ...... Heath does the trick

I was 7 miles away in NJ. I saw both towers fall. Those were controlled implosions

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I hope you didn't hurt your knee jerking it so hard. If you don't find it funny, that's great and give it a pass, but to dogmatically tell others that they must agree with your sense of humor or get the heave-ho is almost exactly what any open minded, open hearted, humanist would not do. That's the response of the myopic religious majority: agree with me or get the hell out. No thanks. I'm just fine figuring out what I like to laugh at and what I don't for myself, I don't need to treat those that are my friends like they are lesser creatures unable to think for themselves.

Hordo Level 6 Nov 8, 2018

I think it was an irrational impulse. I've gotten this response from a lot of people. I'm human and therefore not always rational. That's why I posted and this is the consensus of most people here. I can live with being corrected.

@paul1967 You are a better man for acknowledging your emotional response and then making amends in this way...having to be right instead of doing the right thing has made many people idiots...I commend you.

@thinktwice that was incredibly kind of you. Thank you.

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Yes, you have a thin skin. I don't like the idea of giving up on another human being too quickly. I don't like giving up too quickly in general.

Ug That sucks that this seems to be the consensus.

@paul1967 I agree with you.

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Jesus fucking christ. What the fuck is wrong with some people?
There is NOTHING about 9/11 that will EVER be funny.

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Everything is funny or nothing is. We have to laugh, even at our worst tragedies, or we risk greater ills.

I understand your not liking it, but who does this situation say more about? The people posting or finding funny a distasteful photo or you, the man who stopped being friends with people over said photo?

Perhaps I am extreme for holding this opinion. I certainly would not stand in front of a 9/11 widow and make this joke, but to a friend? Sure. I might expect them not to laugh, or to call me down, but to stop being my friend?

I would count them fickle, and myself better for it.

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Yet you also choose to share this meme.

Makes me wonder about your motivation.

I just ended a lot of friendships and I trust this community to correct me if I'm being irrational and if you read other responses you will see why I posted this. If I can't bring this stuff to the community what good is it?

@paul1967 You shared a meme that could potentially offend/upset a lot of people regardless of your motives.
The pictorial and graphic imagery has a far greater and immediate impact on emotions than a reasoned text rebuttal without sharing the meme. Had you written something along the lines of "I have just unfriended a number of people on facebook that gav a positive response to a meme that in graphic detail compaired the events of 9-11 to an extreme game of Jenga", there would be no need to share the meme.

@Uncorrugated valid point

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I was a commodity broker in Chicago when that happened and saw the 2nd tower get hit live. I'm not the best judge but I think you're justified.

Btbd Level 7 Nov 8, 2018

After talking to people here I think I over reacted a little. I don't think this is funny but trashing friendships was probably an over reaction.

Can always unblock if you feel like it, I say at least make them stew for a bit.

@paul1967 not necessarily... It's ok to let some people go...I keep conservatives around b/c I'd be living in an echo chamber without them and have no bait. Most problem people weed themselves out. I'm not going to coddle anyone. If I defriend you- you're pretty much a trainwreck.

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Except for the dead people, what's your problem, snowflake? THIS IS SARCASM!

I don't see it that way. I don't see the punchline or the need for sarcasm. I see the men and women who were in that building. I see the families who lost someone that day. I see them on Facebook finding this meme and reliving it as people are liking this and laughing. I think there are worse things and the people who laughed are not bad people but it doesn't put you in a positive light. I will probably talk to some of these People after I cool down. Maybe I'm being too emotional but this wasn't funny to me and it hurt to see people I care about laughing at this.

@paul1967 no, I meant my Comment was sarcasm. The meme is freaking Awful!

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Yes I think you are. Perhaps it would be better to try to educate people than to block them

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I don’t find it funny at all. It’s a tacky, tasteless reach for attention from the OP. I would have blocked them.
This is was an American tragedy. I totally get how you try to make light out of a heavy subject. I think this is in poor taste. A whole generation of children will grow up without parents because of what happened that day.

@powder please enlighten me how that has anything to do with this post

@powder Make no mistake, I’m not American. I don’t advocate violence in any way at any time.
My comments should not be conflated into a much bigger issue.

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People need to be free to express themselves

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I can't find the humor in it. Should you have unfriended all those friends without questioning them first?
The meme bothers you so go back and talk to the people you unfriended. Please let me know how you make out.

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Also, I agree.. Not funny and in poor taste. And we are all justified in removing and blocking any one from our FB at anytime - for any reason, really. ... That being said, if you do have second thoughts about your reaction, and it seems like you might, you may want to consider contacting the people who gave it a "like" off-line and explaining your reaction to them. If you don't really care about them or their opinions... then just let it ride. You are entitled to your feelings.

Great advice

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I have my own odd humor. Don't care for that but it doesn't freak me out. I could tell plenty of jokes, et al, that touch similar nerves. That said, I wouldn't let one joke response be my motivation for unfriending someone (could be the finally straw).

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Good for you. Such "friends" are not worth keeping.

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Thank them for revealing their lack of good taste to you so perfectly, let those who want to laugh laugh, those who would rather aspire to higher forms of humour do so too.

I think it better to know who is an arse hole by allowing them freedom to parade their arseholiness freely, rather than have them hide it away and pretend to be decent.

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i don't know what it means. what's jenga? it doesn't LOOK funny but i don't get it. yeah i recognize what the picture is of. no, i don't know what the meme means.

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Jenga is a game where you start with a tower of wood blocks and you take turns removing wood blocks. The goal is to not let the tower of wood blocks fall over as you pull the block out.

@paul1967 okay. well, stupid meme then. not funny. i can see where someone might think it was. i would not agree.

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I personally find it funny, however I would NEVER post this once (much less twice) because it is controversial. The majority of the people looking at this would be highly disgusted with it; they would also believe you find in funny unless you also post an explanation to it. To be honest, I'm surprised that the people you unfriended didn't unfriend you first. That's how I usually handle memes that I find offensive, especially when the poster has done it more than once.

One of the many reason why I don't have many Trump supporters as my facebook page. They post too many memes I find offensive. Since I don't feel it's my place to tell them what to post on their page, I unfriend them

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This is not funny at all. I'm very close to 9/11. Saw the towers burning live, know people who barely got out of the building in time and were extremely traumatized by the wreckage they saw in the plaza when they did, know someone who died, and people who lived and worked in the area who were displaced for weeks or emotionally torn apart by being nearby. I visited Ground Zero a few weeks after the attack (you couldn't get closer than a block) and the ruins, though closed off by a protective fence, were still smoldering, and saw how this attack just destroyed my beloved city... And seeing something like this would incense me to no end... That being said, I would have probably said something to anyone directly who laughed or made light of it rather than just unfriending them, but everyone is entitled to do what they feel they need to do. Perhaps you can reach out to them and explain to them why you were upset. If they're real friends, they'll understand. If not, no loss.

Thanks, i was there too. I didn't want to make it about me and my loss, so I didn't mention it. Your response it very good thanks.

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It is in poor taste but some people do have very black senses of humour. Also, humour is often used as a coping mechanism; some thing are very difficult to deal with on a deep emotional level and humour, even such dark humour, can help.

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It's your right to pick and choose your friends on your page.... But if you had whined to fb or reported them for that or called 911- it's a totally different ballpark

I posted this here to talk out my anger and see if I'm being irrational. If there's any place to find that out it's here

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