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Ghosting is a term normally reserved for relationships. It refers to an abrupt disappearance of a partner and a cut off of all communication without warning.
It sucks to ghost and it sucks even more to be ghosted. The phenomenon of ghosting is spineless, inconsiderate and selfish. Unfortunately, employers are experiencing it too. Although no real research has been done, a recent article from An executive from Robert Half, a global staffing firm, told the Washington Post that its recruiters have seen a 10% to 20% increase in ghosting in 2018. The initial reaction when someone abruptly disappears is to be concerned about that person's safety and health. In the future, the frequent ghosting of employers may change that.

Kojaksmom 8 Dec 13
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There were probably plenty of warnings you chose not to see.

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There is one time I encourage ghosting, and that is if someone is in a physically abusive relationship. Hell no you don't have to tell them you are leaving. You are putting your physical safety at risk. I guess I'm saying the obvious.

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They are usually assholes all along, be thankful for the disappearance....

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Employers deserve it and I hope it increases until they learn to treat people like fucking human beings.

I think the days of being faithful to an employer are over. I still don't see how pulling a disappearing act is going to improve anyting.

You need to find a better job or employer. I've been 7 years with my company and I love my job and get great benefits. My competition.... Not the same story. Keep looking until you are happy!

I prefer to exit with class, two weeks notice and all … then you’ve the perverse pleasure of watching them attempt to replace you ..perhaps beg you stay. Fuckum 🙂

@Varn I'm with you on that one! always leave your options open. There are way too many people on the face of this planet, and competition is fierce to a level of bloodletting. The only time this kind of ghosting Behavior to an employer is acceptable is if you are independently wealthy, or plan on living with Mommy and Daddy for the rest of your life.

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You know the downside of ghosting if you've ever been handed a layoff notice.

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No man has ever disappeared from my life without discussing it first.

You're one of the lucky ones. Approximately 70% of all people who are dating have been ghosted.

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It happened to me once many years ago. Horrible.

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Ghosting? ?
Ahh you mean yeah this is a waste and you’re all about you so moving on✌???‍♂️??‍♂️??‍♂️

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Considering how most employers treat workers and job seekers these days, I say good for them if employers are now being ghosted. Payback's a bitch! Just ask Deiter about this subject. As far as personal, non-work relationships, that's another subject, which seems to get debated on this site weekly.

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Only in the internet world. People who know how to take advantage and scheme the system.

godef Level 7 Dec 14, 2018
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What do you mean, recruiters are experiencing ghosting?

People drop out when they realize the job has low pay, or they get a better offer?

I too was puzzled (he said, realizing that he forgot to punctuate that sentence). I can only assume in this context that it means quitting without giving notice.

@Paul4747 I have heard that this is now a common practice among Millenials. Instead of giving notice or quitting a job the old way, they just quit showing up for work. Can't say I blame them in most cases. They look at Boomers like me or even Gen X workers and see us as chumps for showing any old school loyalty or respect to employers and maybe they're right based on the cold reality.

@TomMcGiverin Given that the civil service just declared huge and important parts of my contract "not topics of negotiation", giving them the ability to just impose whatever terms they feel like, in place of the terms our union has agreed for the last 19 years, I feel we're being treated as chumps by the employer. We currently have a huge recruitment and retention problem, with 1/3 of new employees quitting in their first 5 years, and so in their infinite wisdom, they decided that the way to get new employees to stick around is to take away all the privileges of senior employees.

@Paul4747 It may be passive-aggressive, but I've got to hand it to younger workers for their ghosting of employers as "fighting the power" in whatever way they can. Ghosting in personal relationships is a whole other matter and usually involves an innocent party being mistreated by someone who is simply being selfish and gutless.

@LiterateHiker From how I interpreted the article, recruiters are aware of why they are filling a job vacancy. The number of people that are leaving posts suddenly without warning and refusing
All communication is growing.

@Paul4747 that's how I interpreted the article. leaving your job suddenly and refusing all communication with your employer. Like it or not, I don't see how someone could think it can't come back and bite you in the ass at some point.

@Kojaksmom Oh course they will suffer from dissing an employer. What else is new? It's a power game, as Deiter would say. But I find it encouraging, no matter the cost, that more workers will not keep putting up with the same shit from employers. It's no different in some ways than organizing a union or going on strike, you challenge the power of the employer, they will probably make you pay. But after decades of class warfare against workers, maybe it's time to fight back in some way and if most workers start doing that, then employers can't get away with punishing all of them. Because they sure as hell don't want to hire Boomers and also don't want Gen X workers either. They're generally more expensive than Millenials and harder to push around. So I hope the Mills hang together on this, then they might get away with it.

@TomMcGiverin in reality, for most places of employment, there really is no such thing as ghosting an employer. Almost all companies have a rule of not showing up for work without a call or a reason will lead to immediate termination. When an individual chooses to ghost their employer it goes down on record that they have been terminated from their position.

@Kojaksmom I agree with those who've mentioned that eventually those kids are going to grow up and find out that serious employers want references. Walk off of 5 or 10 burger flipping jobs and you can still get another, but you'll have trouble getting work as a programmer or graphic designer with that reputation. And not mentioning all those jobs you quit raises problems too; they'll wonder if you've done anything with your life.

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I cannot understand how someone can ghost someone else. A person that they cared for and perhaps loved. How can you do that to someone. The ghosting from a job I have not problem with, even though I would not do it.

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