If I read a dating profile of someone my age that says the person does not drink, I immediately wonder whether they have had a problem with alcohol addiction in the past. If they have written in their bio that they just don't feel comfortable doing it but they tolerate those who enjoy a social drink occasionally, I am less uncomfortable with the statement. I am the child of an alcoholic and the idea of being in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic is frightening to me . Like most people today, I do not want to date anyone that smokes anything.

It's the delivery, the implied tone, that people probably don't like.

There was nothing wrong with WHAT you were trying to get across...admirable traits when they stand on their own for many...but you left little room for anyone to question or get to know you better without feeling you were already heads above them for never drinking, smoking, etc. It appeared judgmental.

How about putting it in a positive spin in the here and now?

"I refrain from smoking, drinking or using drugs"...it sort of leaves a bit of mystery and maybe allows for human foibles of others to be explored...someone that maybe had that in their past and gave it up? Let the discussion be available and then tell your story and allow the other person to tell theirs.

If I were dating, I would not have answered you with that in your profile...I no longer drink, smoke, or use drugs, but I had in the past...it would have been intimidating to me to even say hello.

What do you want a medal? If you just happen to be alive and a consumer of some sort you have vices whether you like it or not. If you want to condescend because you feel superior you will just come across as an asshole. You already do to me.

I went back and read your previous post that was about your dating site profile. I think most women care about whether or not a guy smokes (most seem to want non-smokers), so making that clear is a plus. They also want to know you are not a drug addict or a habitual drunk, but total abstinence may or may not be a plus. I struggle a bit with that too since I never learned to like the taste of alcohol, and I don't do drugs. I'm sure that makes me seem like a choir boy to some women and they may assume I don't know how to have fun.

I need someone with vices. They don't have to share all of mine but one or 2 or is almost required for me.

I might have them all so there is usually some overlap

I don't know that it wouldn't work with someone without vices I just suspect there would be alot of judgement in a relationship like that and that never works long

Are those points really worth bragging about? I mean, you can state them for informative purposes.. but brag about them?

Depends on the companion. I guess it would help sort out someone who is compatible with that. For me no.

I drink wine ... A little. .. No smoking ... No drugs ... So what's the big deal...

It depends whether you were bragging about your non-use of those substances or having a tantrum.

Tantrums we can do without!!!