What a shit year it's turning out to be already. On Sunday (so technically last year) my very dearest friend, who I adore more than I could ever describe, found her mother dead. Yesterday, another close friend's father died. Today, I found out that another friend attempted suicide a few days ago.
Can't wait for 2020.
That's pretty awful. A miniscule consolation is that this is the statically most likely time to croak - elderly folk hang on until Christmas/the new year, and the holiday season is really tough on those with depression.
Hopefully it's just an initial blip.
Death isnae any fun, so I'll try to give you a little uplift on the subject.
I'm off down to England/London for a funeral of the last major old man of the family. And we plan to have a hoot of a time. He has put money behind the bar of his local pub for his family and friends to enjoy. We will tell tales and celebrate to fellow. No black unless it's sexy - he got that from me. So in your terrible sorrow, find the fun, find the good, shed some tears and have a laugh. Three years ago I lost three people between October 11th and Christmas eve, only one from old age. A wife two friends, two close friends and a contemporary cousin. At my wifes wake, we played Cards against humanity - she'd have liked that. Big hug lass, and a kiss for your forehead. Tony
@Sofabeast -- Just a side note: My ancestors from my father's side came to the US via Dundee, Edinburgh, and Glasgow, thence to New York to infect them with their vile presence in the late 1600s. I've been to Glasgow and Edinburgh on business a few times in the late 1960s. Had a lovely time and thought I'd retire to Dundee, but life had other plans.
@evidentialist Look up a movie 'Gorky Park' from the 1980s. Dundee played the part of Soviet Moscow, due its dismal appearance! Now even the jute mills are gone. I moved here from southern England (that's what love can do) and don't want to leave.
@Sofabeast -- I'll do that. I have a feeling I've seen it, but just in case.
Life truly sucks sometimes. It is good that you have this site and the great people here to share your feelings about these significant losses in your life. No one has all the answers to help with your pain, but please know many here care. I lost my husband in June of last year. If you need to vent or just want to chat send me a private message.
my good friends som in his early 30`s was found dead just b4 xmas and my 86 year old mum has lymphoma now so shit for me too. i do understand too a degree.
Sorry for all of this happening, hope that it gets better for you!
Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry. That sucks and is awful. My hope is that you may find some glimmer of happiness and a source of comfort for this year.
It's still early, there's hope for 2019 still.
I'm sorry for your losses and for those of your friends. Hang in there, it has to change sooner or later.
I'm sorry Jnei if you need to talk- holler please? I'll be around tonight for sure.
That is a lot of friends with a lot of sadness going on. I can't imagine all that at once.
Though I've watched my older sister go through funeral after funeral sometimes?
I have just two friends I see who still have parents around and it's going to be hard when they go.
Hang in there my friend. You know where I am. Love you much.
Do what you can. I always baked.