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Is it better to have loved and lost, or better to not have loved at all?​

nicknotes 8 Jan 14
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You can't truthfully answer that until you have loved.

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Love. Absolutely. I have gone the not-love route: it's safe, but it sure sucks. I'll take love, even with heartbreak.

Good plan...go for it...

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I choose love - always.

Wonderful answer...

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Yes, plus there is hope that there is more love for you as well, and it doesn't take away from the earlier love at all.

You are an optimist....that's good..

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anyone who has loved and lost a pet knows it's better to have loved.

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It is rough with pets because they rarely outlive you.

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Love all the way. What do we really have besides our relationships?

So you are "All In"...

@nicknotes Yep. ☺

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The love was wonderful. The loss was heartbreaking. I loved the love more than I hated the heartbreak so, yeah, I'd do it again.

Often the second or third try is better because with maturity often comes wisdom.

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The love was absolutely worth the soul crushing agony of loss. Believe it or not, I would knowlingly walk through all of it again, in order to relive the love.

Zster Level 8 Jan 14, 2019

Your future is an open road to success.

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The simple answer is often the best answer.

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according to the Buddha - never love.

The Budda is not always right....

@nicknotes he would agree with you

Sure ...if he were only alive today @kauva

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Always better to love and lose than to not love. No question! It's like making mistakes. If you don't make them you never learn. If you don't lose at love - you never appreciate it when you win.

You are an accomplished philosopher.

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Depends on which happens first.

Was it the chicken or was it the egg?

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Loved. And hoping to be loved again.

Be patient...your turn is coming soon.

@nicknotes I can't wait.

It will happen before Independence day....@confidentrealm

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Alfred Lord Tennyson poetically asserts it is. . . Psychologytoday.com agrees.

The intellectual approach....I like it.

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Better? To have loved and lost. Easier would certainly be to not have loved at all. But, then, when do good things ever come easily?

I think you are right...it always feel great when the pain goes away.

A 'lovely' answer

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At least if you have loved and lost you still have the memories. I tend to remember the good memories but I know some people who seem filled with hate.

Good memories...good dreams...are pleasant.....Hate just raises your blood pressure and that's not good.

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Wouldn’t have missed it for the world.

skado Level 9 Jan 14, 2019

That's Great...that you have had good experiences...

@nicknotes
Whether or not it was “good” could surely be debated, but it was deeply human.

Human''''......better than being a dog lover. @skado

@nicknotes
Some of my best friends have been dogs.

Yes...I know I've dated a few in my life. @skado

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Loved and lost but best is loved and still love and be loved in return.

I'm happy you are optimistic...that's a sure path to successful relationships in the future.

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