I have no idea how to flirt. Me: So...uh, um..do you darn your own socks?

I tend to beg.

never managed it. am about to read the post for some ideas - I hope

I just am myself because that's who I'm going to be anyway. let's face it really there is normally some chemistry both ways and you click. if you have to change who you are there is something wrong in the first place I think. I don't need a woman but I would like one.

I do not.......am open and friendly with most people.....but flirting creeps me out. It really does.

For about a year of my life, when I was younger, I was pretty good at it. I don't know what happened but that skill left me. Now I say stupid things if I say anything at all..."You know I was thinking, in thirty years we will both probably be dead. I have a cat named Pumpkin and he always hacks up fur balls on my bed.". Stupid stuff like that.

I don't know how to flirt with men, always taking what they say at face value.

But before I started taking the Thai derris scandens herb, as my female hormone levels waned past menopause, I became more gender fluid, moving back and forth between male and female perspectives.

When in male mode, my male side could pick up women effortlessly simply by listening to them, remembering what they said, noticing things about them..a new bag, complimenting their new hair color, etc. In no time I'd have a gaggle of beautiful giggling girls on my arms, and that's about when my female side would wake up and get rid of them before the male side could buy them all drinks, and waste her money.

It's a relief to take the herb and just be androgyne..a gender blended person who doesn't chase anyone. But I do know how, apparently.

I don’t think I do it correctly. I try to share an interesting random fun fact. But I think my face gets in the way.

I let my dance do the "flirting". Outside the dance floor I am pretty serious. Keeping them guessing how come I don't smile. Make them want to see me smile. Then... you get them with that Charming Smile of yours. Attention to detail, make them realize you were playing with them because you are a Fun guy. I had never lost a staring contest... when in a contest I work my taxes in my mind... that will do it. They don't have a chance.

I .think people in general flirt more than they realize. A smile at the right moment, a quick look away to avoid eye contact whether we realize it or not is flirting. On the other side a lot of us don’t recognize or are afraid to acknowledge when someone is flirting. It’s even harder to recognize it that it is to recognize you are doing it.

I am no expert of course. But I’d go with what feels natural. A wink, a smile, or even say hello to start a conversation.

Keep 'em laughing, while still being genuine, if that can be called a strategy since it is just a natural part of who I am.

"Excuse me Miss, do you mind if I ask you a question? Have you ever woken up, rolled over in bed, looked at the man lying next to you and thought, 'Jesus Christ! Why in the name of HELL did I do THAT???'

"No ... ?

"Fancy giving it a try?"

I'm a nerd, we don't flirt.

I talk about weird stuff nobody cares about. Normal people leave me alone and nerds want those conversations. It's a win-win.

Tuesday, I was talking about music and early brain development (it started w flaws in the Monks of New Skete, see the connection?). I noticed one beautiful woman switched a ring from her left ring finger to her right hand and sat down near me. We chatted for over an hour and she gave me her number before I could ask

Flirting in a relationship is much different, sometimes it's subtle like, "I liked your boobs". That's not guaranteed to work and you should give compliments without expecting an orgasm. Usually it's a glance to know she's horny. I've been busted for staring at a GF's ass and ordered to make her squeal as penance.

I tend to be just the way I actually am. Considerate, sensitive, kind, helpful, a romantic smile that says I am interested in you without them fully realizing the sensuality of the moment, and if they do I would welcome it. The idea of entering into a game of chance is that you certainly don't win all the time, but its the process itself that is so invigorating.I don't necessarily think that practice makes perfect but it does bring up your average.

I don't think I have a strategy

No idea how....

hen I was younger I was going into town to work and this man on the train kept smiling at me - it worked I kept looking at him to see if he was still doing it and he was just doing it more - I sagged off work and we spent the day together he was a teacher in a school that we passed on the train and wanted to buy some guitar strings and mooch about - It was a great day we never met again but I think it was a good flirt!

He myself. See what happens

"Excuse me Miss, do you mind if I ask you a question? I'm doing a survey about corny chat-up lines. I was wondering if you could listen to the three following, corny chat-up likes and tell me which would be most likely to work for you:-

"1 - What's a nice girl like you doing in a dump like this?

"2 - If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?

"and 3 - Excuse me Miss, do you mind if I ask you a question? I'm doing a survey about corny chat-up lines ..."

I got pretty good at making everything I say sound sort of naughty without using bad words.

I like to think, that I'm a master flirter ???? I think that eye contact, is very important and the tone of your voice while flirting.

I was married for 24 years, I don't know how to flirt anymore