They mean well and don't know what els to say. You can always say something like "I hardly think he will get into heaven with his track record", that will shut them up.

Try to look past the foolishness they express and take the comments as expressions of sympathy, nothing more.

I am so dreadfully sorry.

I'm so sorry for you loss.

I am sincerely sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry, xoxo .

Just remember you are in control of your life and how you grieve. No one knows your personal pain. I, we, wish you all the best. Ignore the unthinking ones the best that you are able. Keep opening up if that helps.

Very sorry for your loss.

I wish you the strength you will need to get through it all.

I'm very sorry that you have lost your brother. Wishing you all the comfort possible.

My sincerest sympathy, Jewel! It really is hard to know what to say, especially if the person has not experienced that kind of loss themselves.

Condolances. A sibbling is as close as one gets.

Sorry for your loss, sweetie. I don’t know how to deal with these people either.

Sorry for your loss. Lost my oldest bro to a rare bone cancer 14 years ago. He was 67. He was also a fundamentalist Christian, but for some reason I didn't hear the "another angel" meme. I think it was because the cancer was so violently aggressive that it was kind of embarrassing to their favored story arc of how things are "supposed" to go for a godly church elder.

Contact a local Hospital,they have many people who will help you in he grieving process,I lost my wife of 27 years in 2017,she was under hospice care,not a penny was spent by me for her care.

So sorry for your loss. People don't know what to say, unfortunately, having experienced that myself. Sometimes the best thing anyone can do is just be an ear for someone who's grieving. At any rate, take care of yourself.

I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs from all of us here. It hard to endure all the stupid things people during a time of loss. Sigh. One day at a time , and hang on to those cherished memories.

Even though cut short, you were fortunate to have each other. Cherish the memories.

If ever there was a time it is ok to tell people to stuff it, this is it. They're saying it to make themselves feel better, not you. I say, let it fly.

I agree with you - It was in God's plan and stupid shit like that. My sister lost her 6yo son and she is very religious. She said she gifted him to God. Now granted it make it easier to accept. The reality was that during pregnancy she was told he was unlikely to live long because of a brain malformation.

How tragic. My condolences to you at your time of loss.

It may not seem like it, but There are enough people of reason in this world that you don't have to associate with people who say such things. There is nothing morally wrong with cutting them out of your life. They will find someone else, and so will you.

Sometimes you just have to grit your teeth and remember that idiots may be idiots, but they often MEAN well, even when they're saying something really annoying.

"God has granted your brother his blessing, and an eternal place of joy beside him among the stars!"

AAAAARG! You're a moron! But... you're a moron who is TRYING to give comfort, even though you're making a pig's ear out of it.

So...

Grit teeth. Smile sweetly. Resist the temptation to punch on the nose

"Thank you. You're most kind."

I am so sorry, Jewelee. I know it's hard, and almost everything that almost everyone says will sound pat and/or ridiculous. Those of us who have lost someone close to us know there really is no getting over that loss--and you wouldn't want to--but even those of us who don't know you at all hope to ease your pain as much as it can be eased. Take car.

Sorry for your loss and sorry about these people but they unfortunately don't know any better!

I wish I could take your pain away and bring your brother back. Warmest hugs..???