@AmiSue did you do an actual count? The replies here seem to indicate it was pretty neutral.

@AmiSue Our brain is designed to function in certain ways, we file, label, and categorize things in simple cartoonish ways for storage in limited space and ease of recall purposes. We don't have time to run through every possible scenario possible so the brain calculates whats the most likely thing happen and tries to predict these leaving us making assumptions all the time. We are also designed to seek patterns, so much so we see them in places that don't really exist on a pretty constant bais.

@AmiSue you are trying to change the way people calculate whenit comes to this subject. everyone that reads this will change their calculations when it comes to you because they will move you to a new category. Those that feel gulit from it and feel like they are bad will change their calculations to a wider degree which is how these things impact soceity as a whole. Just changing you to a new category will do little to change things overall. None of this will really change how the brain works. I just find it useful personally to understand what is going on with myself and others as much as I can know. I don't tend to be as judgmental about why people do the things they do when I understand whats really driving it all. I attach no value judgments on anyone, people will do that for me no matter how much I explain so I get that too. I just don't view others or myself as being as bad as I used to.

@AmiSue fair enough, like I said people will attach those for me,

@AmiSue I only wish people could read my statements without reading into other messages-but that's also just the way the brain works. I'm not smart enough to figure out how to word stuff so that the right message gets implied obviously.

@AmiSue thanks, what I'm talking about is processing that usually occurs below our conscious awareness

@AmiSue when I say they move you to a new category just means that in the future when you talk about such things those people will not make the same assumptions or calculations about you as they do everyone else. They are likely to continue to make those same assumptions about everyone else though because it works most of the time. Now if there is a punishment attached to it like a negative feeling then they are likely to adjust those calculations to more people if powerful enough to everyone. This is because the brain works off rewards and punishments to regulate behavior. Things that feel good we seek, things that hurt we avoid.

@AmiSue the brain is constantly making calculations about risk vs reward. People cheat because those calculations are always changing based on new information, when someone meets another that offers a greater reward we go for it in general. To them though all they feel is the attarction and emotions, they are never really aware of the calculations going on but they never really stop.

@Gooniesnvrdie when someone comments "lol", that seems pretty gender neutral to me...lol...but yeah...like a person's life experiences should not count toward anything...we all start with some sort of preconceived assumptions and can only hope to be informed other wise...why set people up anyway? oh well...life on the internet...

@Lutherzme fair assumptions in my mind..

@Lutherzme Smart comments are flirting....