I'd love to hear from single adults who live alone by choice. Do you think there any truth to the saying that "the longer you live alone, the less tolerant you are of other people?"
I do not think that there is any truth to that saying. I think that it is more likely that people who chose to live alone are those who are less tolerant of other people. In my case it is more of a recovery from a bad marriage. It takes time.
I do not think that....living alone gives you "breathing room" from other people so you can be more tolerant, and knowing that relief from them is close by helps too.
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I've lived alone for over a decade and love it. Not sure I'm less tolerant - I have never cared to have too many people around me, all the time, anyway. Probably depends on how compatible we are.
I did have a live-in boyfriend for about a year of that and while we found a comfortable balance, and shared the cooking and chores in my one-bedroom apartment, it would have been nice if we each could have had our own space.
I think I could live with someone more easily if I had my own bedroom and bathroom, with a shared living room and kitchen. I really cherish my solitary time, so I'm fine if I never have a roommate again.
I do spend long stretches of time at my daughter's house, but she has created a nice space for me downstairs, where it's almost like my own apartment after spending the day upstairs helping with the kids. It's a fairly compatible arrangement, perhaps she's testing the idea for when I get old and senile, haha.
Chicken and egg. Do they live alone because they can't tolerate people, or does living alone cause them to be intolerant. I've lived alone for darn near my entire adult life, the times I lived with others was horrible. They're always in your stuff, in your business, you always have to wear clothes.
I have been living alone for 12 years almost , and I don't think I will ever like to change that . My house is the place I come to rest , think , play , regroup , create for fun . I do what I want , when I want , as I want . I am afraid that it's to late to try again to include another human in my daily life . Even if ever in love and loving again , I can't imagine that anyone will understand the " non talking b4 coffee pls " , or " yes , my showers are half hr long ".
Those are not big deals.
There are certain people on internet forums that I could not tolerate for over ten seconds in person... and they know who they are...
...oh shit.. I’ve a good distance between me & my neighbor ...but it’s 4-something AM and I’m laughing so hard ..I don’t want to get caught ...and ..I think I ‘see one’ coming up.
I kind of love both. I have had roommates and significant others I've lived with. There is always something fun to do with them. But it's also really fun to walk around in your underwear and do what ever you want. I also love the quiet of living alone. Want to see people? Go to their house.