Is it ok that my son is playing lots of sweary rap music to me? Its good but I am thinking I am meant to be growling and telling him to turn that crap off! #shitatparenting!
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Rap is not music. It's poetry set to a beat.
GuitarDoctor
Level 7
Feb 16, 2019
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I have always let my kids listen to whatever music they like. I don't think censorship of music at home does anybody any good.
JenBeberstein
Level 8
Feb 15, 2019
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Yeah, I have really never censored anything. I alwats said you can check out anything, as long as we get to talk about it. They are sensible children.
@Amisja honesty and open communication are major contributors to raising sensible children.
I would have to ask first, why wouldn't it be okay? Because of the cussing? The rap?
UpsideDownAgain
Level 7
Feb 15, 2019
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He's swears at me constantly
@Amisja I can see how you might consider that a problem but I'm still not 100% sure what you're saying here. From your post, it sounds like you're happily accepting of his music and maybe it's something the two of you share? Am I reading it wrong? I personally would be okay if my kids wanted to listen to music with a lot of cussing. The problem would be if they were being deliberately disrespectful toward me. Is that what's going on?
@Meili yeah we had a fun day. Its just I remember proper parents who growled at their kid's music. Just wondering if I am doing it wrong
@Meili, @MissKathleen He's 22...that ship has sailed
@Amisja Ah, gotcha. I would say, if it feels right, it's right. Growling usually doesn't feel good for anyone involved.
That sounds like first rate parenting to me - it's great that he not only feels he can share something that would anger many parents with you, but apparently wants to, too.
Jnei
Level 8
Feb 15, 2019
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if its in your house and you don't like it say something
LeighShelton
Level 8
Feb 15, 2019
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We like to share
@Amisja its all good then
@LeighShelton Yeah but aren't I meant to be all grumpy n pissed off with him?
@Amisja your house your rules. it has nothing to do with the music. your not meant to be anything but yourself.
@Amisja so like i said its all good
I see Rap simply as another style of music and to each thier own. I’m not into classic rock like someone my age should be. I don’t mind hearing a bit of rap sampled into other genres.
My boys listen to completely different styles of music. They are influenced by culture, thier friends and me to a lesser extent. We just have fun sharing our playlists when we’re in the car and that’s what music is all about
Green_eyes
Level 8
Feb 15, 2019
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@PalacinkyPDX I agree with you, I can’t do that either.
How old is he? Ask who he’s listening to. Research their lyrics. Pay less attention to the swearing and more attention to the overall message. If the rap he likes has a subpar message try playin some Run the Jewels for him. They’re good guys and on the surface they sound as aggressive/profane as most rap without goin overboard, but if you listen closely you’ll notice they’re talking about skepticism, world politics, social issues etc.
Wurlitzer
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Feb 15, 2019
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