That is so sad! I hope she wants her child to be happy bad enough, that she can calm her fears and show up. When my daughter had to get married because she was pregnant, I was broken hearted and could not be the loving mother that she deserved! Forty years later, I feel the sting of MY inability to cope. Tell her how important it is, that she celebrate this occasion with you. Best wishes!

That's very sad, but not uncommon. I attended my partner's nephew's wedding in Connecticut last year and the brides parents didn't attend the wedding because it was a humanist wedding.

That's too bad. Silly thing to do. She may come to regret it at a later date. Hope your wedding goes well.

Her loss, and you save how much per catered plate?

Maybe your officiant or marriage performer can offer some suggestions, to be inclusive, while adhering your spiritual views?

I perform Humanistic weddings, so according to the state, they are classified as “Religious” but they are not worship services or focused on supernatural deity references. That said, the weddings I perform are spiritually affirming, humanistically inspiring and reflect the couple’s heartfelt human promises to each other, with only their own personal integrity promised to adhere to those vows, rather than placing the responsibility of fulfilling those vows on a supernatural deity.

Sometimes to appease religious parents or guests, phrases such as “as God is my witness” might become “with the source of all creation as our witness” and other such replacements are substituted offering a generality of spiritual inclusiveness, no matter what the guests religious affiliation. This might be a compromise that would be acceptable?

Some couples will allow the parent or another person in the wedding party to read a short prayer, or a bible quote, such as the passage from 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, which doesn’t even mention a deity, but since read from the bible, appeases the religious parent.

Perhaps you are able to extend an "olive branch" in the way of some sort of compromise?

Let her know she's easily replaced... [facebook.com]

You're getting married, but are (according to your profile) still open to
meeting women?

That sure seems selfish of her. It's supposed to be about you and your new spouse, not her and her beliefs. Sorry you're having to deal with that....

If your religion is telling not to go to your daughter’s wedding because it isn’t religious, then you need to get rid of your religion.

What a sad position for her to put you in. I'm sorry. I hope you have a wonderful wedding regardless of what your mom decides to do. Honestly, if she is going to be that way, it might be better if she isn't there. She'd probably piss all over the celebration.

Ask her if she plans to also turn her back on any grandchildren you might give her? Does she also plan to never accept a dinner invitation to your home? Unfortunately we cannot control what other people think. She is just stuck in her belief system. This is your time to be the bigger person.

Tell her she wasn’t fucking invited anyways.

Don’t take any shit for who you are.
I don’t care who it is. You’re your own person ... period.

She's doing emotional blackmail, use the same weapon. As one who calls himself a Christian, he does not love his neighbor despite his choices. How much more your own blood? If this is what did Christ teach her to act?

It's your wedding not her's

That is sad that your moms beliefs in religious bs are more important than your happiness/wedding. If I ever get married I Humanist ceremony like your having so, hang in their.

That's sad, tell her to think more about you and less about religion!

Perhaps you should point out to her that the religious part comes the night of the wedding when you consummate. The actual marriage is a legality made by and for mankind.

Her loss.