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Another potential relationship ruined because I won't be in a threesome with him, and his god. I need to move out of the bible belt before I even think about dating again. Funny how I can accept other people's faith, but they can't accept my lack thereof.

Karna 3 Mar 19
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I got out of such an entanglement for that very reason !

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Lol ... never thought of it as a threesome.

It isn't necessarily that, however. My late 2nd wife remained a theist after I deconverted and it presented zero difficulty for our relationship. But she wasn't real strident either. Praying before meals and things like that induced as much eye-rolling in her as it did in me. And it helped that her illness made her unable to participate in church anyway.

Much depends on how closely-held the beliefs are.

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Listen to yourselves.

Let me state this unequivocally:

God belongs in the bedroom

As long as it's just "Oh god, oh god!"

Carry on.

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My experiences have taught me just to avoid Christians as a matter of practice. Other faiths have been great for me, but a southern living/non transplant from someplace else? Waste of time. I agree with another poster, get that out date one.

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So you're open to threesomes in general. Good to know. ?

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Even outside the Bible Belt, there are folks with odd beliefs that can become a third party to a relationship. My last significant other believed that the ghost of his previous girlfriend's father (who he never met) made him promise to take care of her for life, so he dotes on her still, which detracted from our relationship. He considers himself non-religious, but has been so indoctrinated with new age type beliefs, it's affected him for life. Hard to find a truly non-religious mate anywhere it seems. We're a rare breed apparently.

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Don't give up a good fling because of Jeeeeezzzzussss. Show them the "way of the flesh." In my twenties, I dated a minister's daughter. Her mom and dad would go into their cups after dinner, and by ten they would be upstairs asleep in bed. I lost track of how many times I shagged that young lady in the living room right under their Jesus statuette. What I didn't find out until later, was that her younger ( 17yo) sister used to sit at the top of the stairs and watch us! Anyway, one day I got careless and left a condom wrapper in the living room. The relationship came to an end. However, I sure enjoyed providing that catechism!

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I know exactly what you are going through. It is hard to find someone in the south that is not a bible thumper to have a relationship with. I have walked away from people for that reason.

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It is mysterious why you'd even try to adopt someone of faith, Kama, and why you do NOT try to convert them, if their faith is an empty shell. I have found that shell is easily cracked, if you do so at the very earliest convenience, BEFORE it has a chance to harden around the relationship, and become a prison. Challenged immediately, it cannot hold up to scrutiny. Approached from a scientific, historical, and cultural point of view, the life of Jesus Christ is easily exposed as fiction. If your paramour is immune to common sense, you are wasting your time. Then, you can withdraw gracefully, and move on.

One cannot be converted into thinking for themselves. One must come to that conclusion by himself or herself. Atheists and agnostics do not go around knocking on people's doors or stand around on street corners with books and pamphlets trying to convert anyone.

@noworry28 Of course not. I'm taking about something completely different.

@noworry28 If someone CAN think for themselves, and only needs a nudge in the right direction, you'll be doing them favor.

@noworry28 After all, didn't YOU need a nudge, at some point or another? Think back.

@Storm1752 No, the answer that my teacher who was a priest gave me just did not make sense to me, i kept questioning those teaching and I was told to have faith in the word of the lord. Those words did not ring true to me. one of them was the teaching that Jesus spend 40 days in the desert, and questioned god his father, and temporarily lost faith. How can Jesus who is god himself lose faith in himself and questioned himself. That was just one of those bible stories that made me question religion while in catholic school as a child. No one had to tell me about atheism.

@Storm1752 If they ask me a question, I will answer and tell them my views on religion and the concept of a supernatural belief. If they get to that point, they have already started to think for themselves and I am not converting them. I will encourage them to do some research, and to read about the scientific method, and to come to their own logical conclusion about the supernatural.

@noworry28 Yesh very few if any things make sense in the Bible if you think about it.

@noworry28 Yes "convert" in is the wrong word.

@noworry28 But if Kama really likes a dude she'd be motivated to at least challenge his mindset and see if there's hope.

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I am sorry to hear of your plight. I once argued with a North Carolinain about religion. He won the argument by threatening to kill me.

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Doing threesome is loving Jesus in the American South

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Sorry to hear. I’ve never had a problem like that. I don’t know if Kentucky is considered the Bible Belt, but there seems to be plenty of open minded folks here.

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When I meet someone, the first words out of my mouth are that I'm an atheist. I get it out of the way early and make it known that I would prefer to be with said same. This site helps with that search. Otherwise the small space that is my sanctuary is where I'll be.

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Thanks for the support. I will keep on living my life my way, and being a decent human being in spite of what they think.

Karna Level 3 Mar 19, 2019
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Difficult to beat the gods of indoctrination... especially when they invade young innocent minds - eager to learn and grow...
What’s really sad is that that these cults insist on “getting them when they’re young” - so that another generation is firmly entrenched...
I feel for you. Been there...

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There are people hiding in plain sight everywhere. Sneaky tell tale signs will let you know who they are

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I'm sorry, hon. Better to find it out sooner rather than later. Don't give up!

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It shows a lack of respect for you and your views. It probably wouldn’t have worked long term anyway....I wish you luck in your quest in finding a compatible mate.

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Ditto. One woman I have heaps in common with here, except she doesn't date anyone who doesn't love Jesus. It gets old fast.

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