The US, from what I've seen, is so "numbers-oriented". "Our doctors have increased the average lifespan to 86!" Are we really happy and content, though? (86 was just an arbitrary number I thought up)

I only mention the US because that's where I've lived the longest. Other countries may be the same, and I may be incorrect in my perceptions.

I do like that the topic is brought to light, it's a good viewpoint IMHO to factor in quality of life in one's plans.

This article is good as it provides incentive to enjoy the time available. She also has a blog posting on the conversation project-which is about advanced directives. There are very good points on that article about specifics in advanced directives.

Good article.

My folks prepared for the wrong death. My step dad has had heart issues since the late 90's, which modern medicine has thankfully nearly negated. But that's what they thought would kill him, so all they're plans focused around cardiac care - the retirement home they picked was close to the hospital, staffed for physical care, blah blah blah.

Then he was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.

All the plans they made went out the window. Currently my 95 pound 84 y/o mother is caring for a perpetual 3 y/o 24/7. She refused going into a different home that had memory care until she realized it needed to be done, and now he refuses to even consider moving, and she doesn't want to upset him.

It sucks all the way around.

There was an article in the NY Times about a woman who decided it was time. She mailed away to Mexico for some chems, took them and died on her own terms. I wish I had the article.

I want to die without pain. My biggest fear beyond that is having unfinished business, but that happens to almost all who die. Dying thoughts like "damn, I was going to watch that episode of Mash this evening too."

84 years old, with my family all around me.

I’m going to die at the age of 98 of a massive heart attack, naked in a bed somewhere in a hotel in Thailand with three 23 year old prostitutes.

Ok.... actually I’m probably going to kick the bucket sometime in my early 80’s in some ICU with three overworked, under paid nurses forgetting to administer my meds.