My answer to what was the hardest to accept: the lack of having a hereafter, and when getting older and vital organs closer to failing this is becoming obsessive and depressing. I would like to have a hereafter with everlasting life in heaven and joining loved ones there, but my intelligence and logic will not allow me to believe in that and the supernatural miracles and myths. I was never brought up with any family religion which was unusual, especially in the south where we lived and I never heard of the word agnostic until later years. My mother allowed me to attend churches with my friends for social reasons but when they pressured to convert me to be saved and join the church she said no.Years later she said shes agnostic after the word had become popular. I also agree that is the most locical. No one really knows for sure so shouldn't everyone be agnostic. I keep it to myself and do not bring it up unless someone asks me and then I will answer truthfully with euphemistic wording attempting to avoid offense and criticism by most all people I know or meet because I know they disapprove. I identify myself as agnostic and secular humanist and I like the Unitarian Universalist "church" for social activities only but have not attended their services because they are on Sunday mornings and I am not a morning person. I do attend their evening secular meetings when I can but it conflicts with my schedule of a community chorus on the same night except during summer vacation and I enjoy social events there for fellowship and meeting new people but that is not often available. I do attend meetups with my local humanists twice monthly and enjoy that. There are very few members that attend, usually 5 to 10 of us meet at the library and a diner and once at a member's home. I do not like to use the word atheist because it brings to mind contempt of most everyone I know or meet. The word implies heathan and infidel, etc. And most people frown on it even up north where I live now. At my chorus most members are in church choirs. Once I mentioned Unitarian church and saw raised eyebrows. The word just means absence of theist affiliation but the connotation is distorted to refer to bad people. I believe one can be a good person without religion and that's what my mother stressed with her character training along with the golden rule. I found that this doesn't always work with everyone so I changed it to do unto others as THEY would have you do unto them. For some people if you suggest something to help them they get angry if it's not what they want. Everyone's different and that needs to be considered. I'm new to this site. I would be interested in meeting members with like interests but preferably in my area of south New Jersey. I got many reply posts but most are very far away in other states. Very few are nearby and suitable. I would appreciate any replies. Thanks