Get your self together & get out. Call friends, relatives, eat crow if you have to but get out. See if your employer has an employee assistance program. Grab all the funds you can, keep them separate & away from him, & get out. It will only get worse (I have the crooked smile from nerve damage, s broken jaw from a steel toed boot, to prove it).

Hopefully you can leave the cats there while you get yourself healed up and start making a plan. Also, regardless of if you stay or go, I've heard excellent reviews of AlAon (support groups for family friends loved ones of alcohol abusers) and NAMI ( classes for family friends loved ones of persons struggling with mental illness). A outside perspective on the patterns and ruts we all get stuck in, can be life changing. Do you need contact info? What county are you in?

Get out. Take your cats and sleep on someone else's floor. If you're in New Mexico you can sleep on mine through Friday night (we're moving Saturday). If youre in Washington state you can sleep on it starting Monday the 20th, when we get there.

Get in touch with a woman's shelter and get the fuck out, no matter where you live..

Been there, done that, burnt the t-shirt. Get out as soon as you can.

The only interaction you should have with Shawn is via the legal and law enforcement system.
Don't be an idiot. If necessary find a women's refuge now!

Where are you living?

They always apologize or worse "don't remember" the actions the same as you and tell you you're crazy. He knows he was drinking and shouldn't drink more, but didn't want to face that reality, and resented you bringing that truth to light. In his heart he knows you are right, but is too in love with his drinking to honor your good intentions.

Get out of his hold as soon as you are able to safely and securely. That means making it on your own, without him. Cut him out of your life completely.

He needs to know there are consequences for his actions - and only when he realizes what he is losing will he possibly get help for his problem. Don't enable him by making him learn he can get away with what he is doing to you, with no consequences.

Sorry you are going through that Joan. I'd be planning to leave if I were you. Just ghost him. Find a new job in a new town, sell stuff, save some money to last about 6 months, and then dissapear on him. Tell your family to cut off communication with him. And make some good friends whereever you go. Heck, you got a few right here online!

Sorry for you, I just hope you have decided to leave that monster for good while you were writting, not without the proper visit to the police!

Holy crap I’m so sorry. Please get out, ASAP. Tomorrow he will apologize and promise it will never happen again. Don’t believe him. Get help, get support, most importantly GET OUT.

The group is right. Staying with an abusive alcoholic is never the best solution. I hope you can find housing beyond a women's shelter, but for now that is where to go for help and safety in the meantime. The cats may be something you have to lose to save yourself, but hopefully they can go to a shelter if you call animal control about them should you not have friends who can take them for you.

Whether he was drinking or not, on a full stomach or not, don't make excuses for him. Physical abuse is never acceptable. I grew up in a home that had that on a regular basis and I wish my mother had left him, but she didn't. These are different times where women have more options.

Call cops get him out fast he has a major problem with alcohol dangerous

You need to report this asap and leave. Things will only get worse.