So my best friend got baptized today. Is it bad for me to feel kind of upset about this? It’s not just that I think Christianity is all a bunch of brain washing bullshit although I do, but I also know that it is helpful to some people and I respect that if that’s what they need to keep on. It’s just that a couple months ago she was telling me that she needs/wants to be closer to God and that she doesn’t feel it. That’s she zones out in church and doesn’t enjoy reading the Bible. It seems like atheism is out of the picture so I offered some ideas since I used to be a Christian. Watching religious movies, praying on her own time, listening to Christian music, and keeping a bible study book. I’ve heard no feedback and then all of a sudden she’s inviting me to her baptism two days ago. I couldn’t go because of it being a few hours away and me having work. I congratulated her either way even though she knows I don’t believe but is it wrong for me to feel almost bitter about it?
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.You are somewhat confused I feel. I can’t understand why you would have gone out of your way to try to shore up her belief in god when she said she was wavering, and then be bitter about her decision to get baptised. It would appear to me that she has resolved her doubts, and now is embracing religion. You cannot now feel bitter that your efforts to reinforce her beliefs worked, when you had the opportunity to discuss the irrationality of them a few months ago when she was wavering and having doubts. Be happy for her, it is her choice, and if you are real friends it should make no difference to your friendship. All my friends are believers, I don’t try to change their minds on their belief in god and they respect the fact that I’m am atheist and don’t try to convert me....this works just fine, it’s called respect.
Marionville
Level 10
May 13, 2019
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Gracious..I sure wouldn't like it.
But I'm puzzled that you offered all those ways to stay in Christianity...what's up with that?
I would have told her it's all nonsense, and refused to discuss religion with her.
birdingnut
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May 13, 2019
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@1EarthLovingGal Why do you care if she "doubts" it..she SHOULD. You are part of the problem if you are working to persuade people to believe in religion again.
Is it bad of me to feel that my ex-wife beat and hid my daughter from me for years telling her lies and brainwashing her into her Christian cult is wrong?... I think so but others even in my own family felt it was the right thing to do... Be sneaky and explain to her she can't call herself a real Christian until she reads the bible from cover to cover without help. You can tell her it says so in the bible somewhere and she will just have to find it...
Lizard_of_Ahaz
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May 12, 2019
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@1EarthLovingGal She is doing better now but still has a lot of growing to do. I now get to talk to her and her children every day and even though they live far from me we grow closer all the time. Her mother is now out of the picture entirely and has been for years none of her children will even speak to her. Karma can be a real bitch when she wants to be right?... This is my daughter and her wrecking crew...
@1EarthLovingGal We are hoping to be able hopefully this summer get together so I can meet some of them in person for the first time in our lives. I never realised how much damage was doing to my life until I was able to see her again. It was 4 years ago I had been diagnosed with type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, high HDL and the beginning signs of liver and kidney failure. I weighed about 310 pounds, had a heart rate in the 80s' to 90s' could hardly walk a block with resting, A1c of 13 or as my primary put it "one foot in the grave."
Today I am at about 220, HDL is normal heart rate in the 60s blood pressure is normal and the last A1c was done the end of March came in as 6.0 without medication. Much of this happened after I was diagnosed with PTSD but when my daughter came back it lifted so much of my anxiety and depression that I feel like I was in my late 30s' again...
@1EarthLovingGal If you are ever out this way feel free to drop by and hopefully she will be here so you can meet her.
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