I have been on and off them for a few years...off permanently now as I have met someone...initially from TInder but then a few years later via Match. They are all the same really. The same people with the same profiles. Match, Zoosk, Plenty Of Fish...all the same. EHarmony...same people but cost you more money. TInder and Bumble....same people on both. Just go with the one you are most comfortable with and make your intentions known.

I have tried almost all of the dating sites and had the same issues: men not bothering to read my profile - I am an Atheist and not interested in religious guys, yet that is practically all that were "matched" up to me. Yet the same guys who have complained about women not bothering to answer, I found did the same, not bothering to answer. Sending me a wink or smile, means nothing. A well written email catches my attention much quicker, yet so many couldn't even bother with the basics of grammar and punctuation.

I have tried match, and have not been displeased with it. I think my difficulty is that I have incredibly specific guidelines (for myself, and not necessarily posted), and so I filter out a lot of "possibles". I do not want a religious man, and that discounts a huge percentage. I think any of the dating sites will offer options, but it is only a tool, and you have to look at a lot of profiles to find matches. I have made a few friends, and have had a few good dates, but so far have not yet found a significant companion... I shall remain optimistic!

All dating websites have scammers,some more than other's, I've used many of the membership and free dating sites,,be aware of the bait they use, some may list abusive relationships,drugs or alcohol use. Be cautious of loaning money for car repairs,rent,food, or other needs.

They are all about the same, in my opinion.

Eharmony seems to have less scammers
Match is easy to navigate
Zoosk has interesting ways to look at people

The problem isn't the app it's the people.

I've had better success, for free, on Tinder (of all places)

Match owns eharmony too. Eharmony has more filters and presents you with fewer matches per day but they're supposed to be "better" matches. I don't think I ever had a date with anyone from that site, honestly.

In 2 years I've been out in person with someone from OK Cupid, Match, and now I think I'm on the verge of meeting someone from Plenty Of Fish. They're all pretty much the same as long as you're careful and take time to dig out the scammers.

Eharmony started by xtions. They used to put up barriers- not sure what they do now - money speaks.

Had some success with pof but a lot of scammers and shills for porn site

Online dating is like a blind date. You never know who will show up. I learned not to get twitterpated over a man before meeting.

For Your Safety

Drive your own car. I meet at a cafe' for lunch or dinner. Arrive early. I tell the waiter I'm meeting a stranger. "Can someone walk me to my car if needed?"

Different Sites

First tried E-Harmony, a stilted, controlling Christian dating site. Then Plenty of Fish (Plenty of Flakes), OK Cupid (OK Stupid) and Match.com. Scammers abound.

These sites have the usual suspects. Met over 100 men in 10 years. Meeting different men was shocking, hilarious and interesting. I learn from everyone I meet.

False Advertising

With online dating, 80% of people post old photos and lie about their: age, weight, height, marriage status, profession and/or activities. Most showed up overweight and much older. 75% of the men expected sex on the first date.

100 Meetings; Two Relationships

Met Dan on Match.com. We dated for three years. After breaking up, we continued as friends and hiking partners. Dan moved to Utah. Lost my favorite hiking buddy.

Since joining Fitness Singles two years ago, I've had better luck finding a fit, intelligent man. That's how I met Bill, MD, in 2017. A competitive bicyclist, Bill owns a private plane, lifts weights and is kind, patient, caring and funny. Great lover.

"Where do you want to go?" Bill asks. Over the Cascade Mountains where I love to hike. "I love your happy feet," he says.

Photos:

1. "One of the happiest memories of my life is when you took me snowshoeing up in the mountains," Bill said. December 2017.

2. Bill (left) and friends from his bicycle club training for a race, rode 90 miles with 2,900 feet of elevation gain. May 2019.

3. Mt Rainier (14,127 feet) in the background. January 2018.

4. Flying over North Cascade National Park. March 2019.

5. Bill flew me up Lake Chelan and over North Cascades National Park.

It was snowing at 10,000 feet. Returning, Bill flew 200 feet above Lake Chelan, following the serpentine curves of the lake. Mountain ridges embraced us on each side. From the air, I watched currents changing direction. A magical moment.

A rainbow followed us as we flew down the Columbia River. March 2019.