Women in my life who wanted sex enjoyed the service I provided. However, women I’ve been involved with have always cut me off and required that I make money and serve them. They were not interested in my hobbies. They wanted me to be a sounding board for their frustrations. They wanted a strong silent type. If I am going to have any kind of human contact, I have to be that person. I have given up my interests that don’t have a good possibility of making money.

It seems to me that this is why religion demands that a woman submit to a husband. The imbalance between men and women is obvious in culture. There are far more strip clubs and porn aimed at men than women. I refuse to live a life of cheap thrills and masturbation, so I have recently chosen a life of celibacy and hard work. My GF of 16 years thinks this is acceptable and will remain my roommate. Our relationship was on the rocks. The routine is pretty much the same as before, but I’m no longer dangerously frustrated by it. We are like an old couple now. We sleep and dress in separate rooms and don’t kiss. I get hugs. Conversation is much easier now that she feels I’m not interested in sex. It’s easier to do whatever she wants to do, now that I’ve given up my trivial pursuits. I now enjoy watching TV with her and have learned to close my critical eye. Taking care of her and meeting her needs is now my hobby. As a result of my giving in, my voice is deeper. My personality is calmer. I can work from sunup to sundown without feeling like I’m missing out on the fun.