You may just be a person who has a low sex drive. If sex were important to you, you'd be making a concerted effort to make it a regular part of your life. Find someone with a sex drive which matches yours.

The bad news in your case is, people with low sex drives are rare. Most people consider an active sex life to be an important part of a well rounded and fulfilling life experience. You may find your search for a partner a bit daunting.

There are great men out there. However, at my age and older, we have a lot of emotional baggage because we have had so many experiences. The man that you really click with won't make you feel that sex pressure. Consider those Mr. Wrongs doing you a favor. That way you don't waste your time on them. Just go on dates with the attitude that this is just for fun!

I guess it depends on the circumstances of the conversation, but I'm trying to put myself in the guy's shoes and, if I find a woman attractive but know she's widowed, I might be hesitant to flirt or otherwise act romantically without knowing she's receptive to dating or a relationship. It wouldn't, for me, be about diminishing the woman's value to nothing more than a sex object, but rather about making sure I don't presume too much and make her feel uncomfortable by flirting with her. That's not to say that everyone is acting in good faith, of course, but only that some men may be interested but don't want to create an awkward situation.

I never expect anything, and l mean anything from women at anytime and never have. As a matter of fact I don't expect anything from anyone period. Whatever good I get from another human being is almost always a surprise, that way I am seldom disappointed.

Luckily not all of us are thoughtless dicks

You are not alone. I'm not a widow.

Seventy-five percent of the men I met through online dating expected sex on the first date, out of 100 men.

Alot of us wonder the same thing.