Hello my girlfrined is bully me into becoming an evangelical christian like herself,I have been a lifelong athiest help
You seem to have two pretty clear choices in front of you.
A) You can give in to a person who clearly has no respect for you, or your beliefs (or lack thereof),
OR
B) You can maintain your principles and show a bully the door.
I know what I'd do. The choice is yours.
Please, don't let that happen if that is what you don't want.
I had been in the middle of my Catholic side family and my ex's Baptist family over what faith we were going to raise our children. The pressure was so intense that it was one of the major reasons I decided to walk away from the church and raise my children without religion at all. The next step was to divorce my ex and I'm happy I don't have to deal with that problem ever again.
What happens if you happen to get your gal pregnant? I'm sure she and her family will not give you any choice as to how you raise your children, they will be evangelical Christian whether you want them to be or not and you will not be able to change her mind and go against her religion.
She has no right to bully you. It is part of who you are. You wouldn't bully her into being an atheist. if it matters that much to her maybe she can move along and see if she misses you.
Relationships are often about compromises. The obvious one here is that you accept each other's position on religion, and neither of you tries to convert the other to your way of thinking.
If you can't both do that and stick to it, then you're probably in the wrong relationship.
Dump her.
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Buy some Nike's and get the fuck out of there. Just do it!
Honestly is it love on her part, or her thinking she's up for martyrdom for saving you? My advice is get out before it gets ugly. I have yet to see an evangelical who can compromise or not try to convert you all of the time.
I think this is a warning sign personally, something is off. r maybe she dosen't truly believe and wants you to fake it for appearances and/or she does truly believe and thinks she can "convince" however you describe her as " bullying" which I see as controlling and its disturbing because for some people controlling behavior has a tendency to increase. personally I wouldnt put up w anyone who needed to fake being xtian or someone who has a need to control me. huge warning sign
When I was a teenager, I TRIED to believe in a god. I REALLY tried. I just couldn't. I don't think it's something you can just do. You either believe or you don't. I won't get into an intimate relationship with a religious person because I can't pretend I believe and I don't want to build a relationship based on a lie. It's your life, but I strongly advise against it.
It doesn't look good. You cannot change or give in just because she cries and doesn't want you to go to hell. I compare religious nonsense today to trying to understand something that the Easter Bunny is trying to tell you. I give it the same authority and validity. BTW, Easter this year is on April Fool's Day.
Misery loves company ask her if she thinks she would have been Christian if her parents were not. no matter how well intended research opinions! Someone that doesn't ALLOW me to have freedom of my own beliefs doesn't love me! DON'T GO SEARCHING THE FOR RIGHT ONE they WILL FIND YOU a relationship is a gift not a need buena suerte